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No. 429 [Reply]

Anyone else doing this?

I know a lot of people are skeptical of any health benefits that could be gained from not wagglin your willly and idk if there are true health benefits myself, but I know for sure I am addicted to pornography and I want to stop. I have many personal reasons as to why I want to stop masturbating and watching porn.

So thoughts on nofap?
Tips and tricks to help fight the urge when it comes?

No.430

I don't know about health benefits and I can see it being a harm if you are used to jerking yourself more than once a day and then going to 0 for a long time.

It's certainly an act of self discipline though. If you manage to hold this for a whole month I'm sure you'll find the will and energy to do other things like study or medidate.

Best of luck anon.

No.432

>>430
I'm also of the opinion that it's more of an exercise in self-control than anything. I personally fap a few times a day even though I, "don't want to." but it definitely saps my motivation after I'm done.

My only cure is to keep busy, but even working 12 hours a day isn't busy enough, so honestly it's really hard for me to go more than a couple days without coming across some anime grill thumbnail that boils my oil.

No.957

>>432
What helped me was ceasing to use porn while masturbating. Not even using my imagination to picture sexually arousing images.

Now simply seeing porn doesn't instantly turn me on and I masturbate just when I actually want to do it. I crave the process and the feeling, rather than the pornography.

That's not so say that my fap frequency fell extremely low immediately, there are periods of time when it fluctuates, but my masturbation patterns and sexual arousal feel healthier than they were prior to absenting my self from porn

No.958

>health benefits
There are huge health benefits, especially if you replace the habit with something productive/healthy. Men who are addicted to masturbating will end up getting no pleasure from it eventually because they've constantly got this death grip on their dick (desensitization) meaning they will eventually never be able to cum from sex or getting sucked off. The high you get from cumming lasts a few seconds but destroying your dick will last forever. That will fuck up any of your future relationships because you'll be shit in bed. You'll probably struggle to even get it up. It will make your partner believe that you don't love them if you can't get hard or get no sexual pleasure from being with them. Your dick will thank you for not strangling it on a regular basis.

>psychological benefits

Porn fucks up your perception of reality. It affects your self-confidence. It affects how you see women. People with an addiction keep going for more and more extreme porn, you could never sustain a healthy relationship with another person in the future if the only thing that will get you off is piss and shit and strangulation. Think about how that could get you into trouble one day if what you're watching is illegal or looked down on by society. It affects how you see people in the office, your family, your friends and strangers on the street, you're seeing them as objects instead of living, breathing humans. It will affect your worldview, your politics and your morals. No partner will ever be good enough for you because they don't look/act like what you see in porn (especially if you're into hentai or something totally unrealistic like furries). When you stop watching porn, your confidence returns and you have much, much better relationships with everyone around you.

No.959

>>958
>replacing the habit
You're addicted to jerking off because it gives your brain chemical rush. It's temporary and then you go back to being bored/depressed. When you get the urge, if you can replace it with something that excites you (music, roller coasters, horror films, running), relaxes you (meditation, yoga, drinking tea), makes you happy (watching a film, listening to a podcast, reading) makes you feel accomplished (cooking, painting, journaling, DIY), helps you bond with someone (your partner/family/friends/pet) etc. then you will break your addiction and have a hobby that you can actually share with others. Better yet, use a combination of all of those things. Imagine the things you could create or consume with the hours you spend organizing your creepy porn folders. Think about why you consume porn and then try to find something that will give you the same high or joy or state of relaxation.

>if all else fails…

Educate yourself on the industry. This won't work for the most addicted people because they've already conditioned their brains into seeing porn stars and victims of revenge porn as objects but after a few weeks of going cold turkey, this will have more of an impact. Read accounts from porn starts who have left, interviews with directors and see how little they care about their actors/you. Human trafficking. Revenge porn. See the impact porn has on the lives of everyone involved in filming but also of those who become addicted (NEETs, divorcees, dead bedrooms, incels). Read accounts of people who have had their relationships/careers/lives destroyed by porn, people who have been sexually assaulted, court cases where people took their fetishes too far and actually hurt/killed someone. If you feel empathy, you can't enjoy porn.



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No. 615 [Reply]

Anon, did you make resolutions for the new year? Goals you want to follow? Bad habits to get rid of, good habits to get used to? This is the thread for discussion and sharing experience.

Note: Resolutions are not unique to new years. This thread is about the discussion of every goal we try to achieve in this year. If you started a day or a month into 2020, no worries. We would still like to hear what you have to say.

Mine are:
>Reduce fast food, once in 4 weeks (last time I went on the 28th so I can't go sooner than the 25th this month)
>Greatly limit internet time to 2h (using the internet for work does not count)
>Start the day by reading
>No sodas or alcohol
>Drink 4 of water every day

Remember not to beat yourself up by saying things like "Everyone breaks their resolution." or "Same shit every year.". Attitudes like this keep one stuck in the mud. Getting rid of such negativity can be the first goal.
If you rebound, you haven't failed. Losing track of your goal is the only way to fail so keep going and mind your actions.

This thread was made in 2020 but counts for all years after too.
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No.758

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>>755
Anon, this may come off as the last suggestion you may have thought of hearing but I know a site that caters to images of all kinda, low to high brow, entirely depending on the user's choice.
Tumblr.

It is possible to make a quiet blog, only follow other blogs that post images or reblog them and not have much in terms of "social"-media. The website is flawed and has a (partly justified) bad rep but unlike all the other webspaces I've seen it allows for a very peaceful and homely experience.
It has a tagging system that allows you to add certain tags to posts to make it easier to find on a blog.

I hope you may find a place of rest to enjoy peace of mind.
I love Simberg too.

No.760

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>>758
That's actually an interesting suggestion that I hadn't thought of. I had tried using tumblr in the past, but I found it difficult to navigate and search through things, and even nice blogs often tended toward endless series of reblogs so you couldn't find out where it came from if you wanted more.

That said I think it's probably a good idea to try it out again. Thanks anon.

Yeah, Simberg is great, bright and comfy while also being somewhat melancholic and nostalgic at the same time.

No.789

>>615
OP back for a monthly update.
The hardest by far is the internet consumption. I have decided upon a different strategy with which I hope to eventually reach a point of little to not waste of time.

Instead of counting the hours, I forbid myself from going to the internet before noon. The week after, before 1PM. Then 2PM. Then 3PM. And so on,

There will be days when I have to check something earlier obviously but I think with this approach I might do better than up until now.

No.790

>>789
I'm also trying to formulate a plan with internet consumption. I'm trying to limit myself from getting on websites that take up more time and working my way down my bookmarks and try to space everything out that way I'm doing more. It's very difficult as I am almost certain I have autism with how difficult choices are on me when there's infinite ones of them with what websites to use and what communities to be a part of. But I'm trying to work on my selective process and my decisive skills.

No.949

>>748
>>789
I am also sick of the internet and I want to go, but I don't consume anything already. I stick around because I want to share my artwork but I have negative infinite self-esteem and social phobias so I can't function outside of anonymous websites. If I make two posts in a row under the same nickname I feel like I'm suffocating. I wanted to make an account on ArtStation and just seeing mandatory name/surname fields made me feel nauseous.
It's completely irrational since I do or say nothing that would warrant this kind of fear, I am just terrified of putting myself out there in the world and I'm slowly growing old while opportunities, people and everything else pass by.
Fear really is the mind killer. I don't know how to recover. Even professional help couldn't fix this psychosis.
I have no idea why I'm posting this here right now, I normally lurk. I'm going through such a troubled phase.



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No. 908 [Reply]

I didn’t know what board to put this under. I figured “mind” worked well. Art thread, post things you’re proud of. I made this with my girlfriend, enjoy
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No.921

>>913
Relax.

No.942

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>>908
really cool art, OP

No.943

>>942
very good photo
reminds me of my high school days

No.947

>>908
>random swastika
basido

No.948

>>908
really nice stuff



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No. 879 [Reply]

Lately, I've been struggling with keeping a positive attitude and continuing on being productive in these trying times. In the spirit of this, I decided to make a thread about the battle for constant self-improvement! I saw an anon on /fit/ recommend this guide, and read through it. It was very brusque but I did find a lot of parallels between my life and that of failure avoidance tactics that we either conciously or unconciously employ.

https://raouldify.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/2011_1203-the-flinch.pdf

Do any of you anons have any similar resources/experiences/advice?
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No.888

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No.889

>>888
stop

No.890

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>>887
Please don't neglect the importance of earmuffs or earplugs, especially if you're going to be doing lawn work often and for hours at a time.

No.929

I was having zoom therapy course as part of a legal case. I found that my low moods come from me not working and being productive enough but that came from me not working as much cause of my accident. I started getting more productive and making more money again and have felt a lot better for it. So my therpay stopped. Ive been tired last few days but I will make myself get out there again.
Ive also told myself I cant drink until I reach certain goals, perhaps by then I wont want to. SO be productive and have goals is my advice.

No.938

I fail to see the benefit of a "positive attitude". Falling for the Cult of Positivity has no relevance to the real world.



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No. 819 [Reply]

Last night was… bad… I had a psychotic episode and I called a friend I hardly know 23 times. I don't even remember what dumb shit I said to get.

I woke up this morning and found a sticky note on my bed telling me to call her when I was feeling better. I stressed out about calling her but I eventually manned up and called her. It went… Shockingly well, actually. So well that I've actually got a date lined up for Saturday. Life is funny.
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No.902

Any updates?

>>901
What, so you can't share your issues with the person you're having a relationship with? Do you know what a relationship is? If the girl is really just doing this out of sympathy for OP, that will show very quickly. I can hardly see how this will 'destroy' the girl unless OP is an XXXTentacion-type violent depressive.

No.903

>>902
What part of
>a friend I hardly know
implies they were in a relationship?

No.910

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No.917

>>911
>>912
why are you posting pictures from your facebook?

No.920

>>919
who are these girls anyway?



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No. 798 [Reply]

I'm not feeling good.
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No.808

>>803
Not OP, but I've had the flu for two weeks before. It was a really nasty case that almost killed me a few years back. I got hospitalized over it. I had never been so sick in my entire life.

No.809

>>808
idk if thats the flu… that's pneumonia!

No.812

>>808
>>809
OP here. Got out of the hospital last night. I went in thinking I had pneumonia (had started to exhibit all the symptoms, really). It was pretty quick as far as ER visits go and everything was free (thank god). I have bronchitis though and they did find a small number of solid particles in my lungs as well. I've been feeling a lot better since.

No.813

>>812
glad you're ok, anon

No.815

>>809
When I was hospitalized they ran some tests and confirmed it was the flu. Unless they are just incompetent and was wrong. Wouldn't surprise me, the hospital here really sucks.

>>812
That's good that you're doing better. What do you plan on doing once you're back to 100%?



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No. 211 [Reply]

Bottling only makes it harder.
This thread is intented for people who would like to rant and write out their feelings.

It's possible to just spill everything in the textbox, explain it detailed or even write poems/haikus or stories, whatever your want.
You can give yourself a time- or character limit if you feel overwhelmed with writing down all that is going on.
You may also ask for advice or similiar.


It's hard to keep up a happy face, don't hide under a mask in order to lie to yourself.
Be honest with yourself and your feelings, that's the first step towards self improvement.
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No.1036

Anon, please turn off the computer and never turn it back on. Do it for yourself. Do it for God.

No.1055

This is the best thread I ever made. This is my last post on the internet. I'm not dying, I'll just stop posting.

No.1056

>>1055
thanks for sticking around friend

No.1099

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Now that my medication has a generic brand my insurance wont cover as much for my meds. I wouldn't be mad, but I don't think they cover the same for the off brands

No.1102

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Does having worked customer service inherently make one put a "customer service face" in any other future job and non-work interaction they may ever have? Ever since my fast food and brief call center job, I wonder if the fake customer service persona I needed at them all the time hasn't spilled into the way I interact with anyone besides family. I had such horrible experiences at the fast food job in particular, I wouldn't even be surprised if it permanently deformed my personality like that. Now my interactions with others feel even more artificial and I feel like I can never fully seperate my work persona from my non-work one (This is probably another sign out of many I will end up becoming a workaholic in the near future).



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No. 726 [Reply]

for anyone who needs it
this is your sign to see a therapist
you can even get it free
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No.738

>>726
Going to a therapist destroyed my life. It would have been better if I had just started drinking.

No.739

>>738
How is that possible

No.740

>>732
Most of Freud's ideas are now discredited or outdated in the psychoanalytical community, but he did pave the way for other more competent psychologists like Jung. Any therapist that still practices Freudian psychology is so fucking clueless they should be fired, it would be like coming to a job that requires chemical engineering when you have a degree in alchemy.

Saying that psychotherapy is a scam would be painting with too broad a stroke, some therapists do genuinely want to help you, the fact that they may be getting paid for it doesn't change anything. You could argue that their methods are ineffective, but that also depends on the therapist and which methods they use.

Personally, I learned enough about this stuff that I could almost become a psychotherapist myself, I did it to help myself with my own problems, and I really love helping other people with this knowledge whenever I can, but once you get to this level you're faced with the annoying fucking problem of actually getting all these miserable people to want to help themselves. I have friends whose problems are super easy to solve, but they just won't even begin to solve them because of their own mental barriers, and this is where I imagine the real challenge for a psychotherapist begins. It's like being a doctor and you can easily cure some illness with a few tablets, but all your patients are superstitious and don't believe that medicine works.

So don't be like these guys, anon. Find a therapist that works for you, find good friends who can listen to you, make some kind of moral effort, or at least do self-therapy through the internet. It's absolutely worth it.

No.745

>>740
i love jung

No.747

My dad wasn't in my life growing up. I guess it's true boys without proper male role models can't grow into men. Hmmm.



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No. 129 [Reply]

How does it feel to have a personality disorder? It gives me something curiosity…

Tell me anon, what does it make you feel?

Tell me your histories.
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No.575

>>129
i have bpd, c-ptsd, an eating disorder, mdd, sad, derealization and a bunch of other shit. basically i want to die (more so in the winter), think everyone hates me, want people to hurt me, and i lie a lot

No.589

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>>572
>The section on psychotherapy even sounds like brainwashing, like these people just need to be returned to "normal" despite the lack of compelling justifications for doing so

>Should this really be considered a disorder? There are so many kinds of people in the world and it seems you could create whatever groups you wanted out of them.


there is a growing movement of people who are of the above opinions, related to trad psych. i am among them. many times, but not always, the treatment does more harm than good.

i personally am deeply opposed to almost all of the methods, approaches, and underlying beliefs about psychology and psychiatry.

No.590

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>>572

can you tell us more about what you've been experiencing that could be considered noteworkthy?

No.625

>>129
I live with Schizoid Personality Disorder (and Schizophrenia). It's frustrating to say the least. I just simply don't want to be around others that I don't really, really love, but people force themselves on me. One of the most angering things about it is being misunderstood by people. Everyone thinks that because I avoid them that I hate them (the least frustrating) or that I'm depressed (very frustrating) or something like that. I do have abandonment issues with people that I really love though. I can't stand not being around them or not spending time with them sometimes.
If you are (or anyone else is) still around and has any specific questions then feel free to ask away.

No.627

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It's just how it is. I can't know anything about how other people think or feel. I only know how my world is. I guess I might be schizoid. I've been a hikki for a decade and never felt lonely. I don't really enjoy much, and I don't really feel most emotions strongly. I guess just about the only thing I like is dreaming. I suppose my life is bad, but I don't really want to be something else, just not be at all.

I might be able to describe dissociation and derealization because there was a time before I had them, and a time after and I can compare the two. Derealization is odd. It's like looking at something, and seeing it not as a single real thing, but as a bunch of unrelated properties. There's a redness, and a roundness, and a shininess here, so I must be looking at an apple. But I no longer see the apple as a single thing that has all those properties. I mean that's not exactly true, but that's the best I can describe it. Disassociation is sort of like that but for my thoughts and feelings. It's like they exist somewhere else in a disjointed fashion and don't really concern "me". It's almost a bit like being half dead. Like I lost half of what I am somewhere and I can't find it again. I'm confused and can't remember what's happened to me, but I don't even really care since I don't really feel like this is important. Like, it's someone else's problem. Another way to put it is it's like going in and out of light fevered sleep, but in waking life.



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No. 569 [Reply]

Any of you guys are dealing with Hunchback posture and/or Forward head posture? It's so annoying, I'm also trying to deal with my weak chin.

Share your experiences, stories, tips, anything that help to get a better posture.

No.570

Can't say I do much to maintain a better posture, but every once in a while, something shows up on the internet that makes me sit up straight.

No.573

>>570
Same here. As I was looking at the picture, tried to fix my posture, and then read your post. lol
I do need to work on my posture, but my desk is a little awkward and small so I have to sit in an odd fashion at it.
My ribs actually are starting to hurt more than my back or anything else, also my chair isn't that great either. I need a replacement whenever I can scrounge up the money to get a new one.

No.576

When I'm out and about I just lean against a wall once in a while to remember how to stand straight.

No.578

I'm going to buy one of these posture corrector to see if it works, any advice?



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