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No. 1075 [Reply]

its overwhelming
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are you new to chans? its kinda outside the culture to go by a name if you are



I think you left your name on


Oh, really? I kinda liked having my name on lol. Is it gonna be problematic for me in the future if I leave it? Also yes, I’m new


Traditionally, anonimity is supposed to allow people to focus on the quality of posts, rather than the reputaiton of the poster themselves. On less /comfy/ chans, you might get harassed because a name makes you stick out from the crowd.


ah, okay, thanks. i might start leaving it off then. hope i didnt cause too much trouble

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No. 1009 [Reply]

Does anyone here suffer with OCD? How do you cope? I have the incessant need trigger myself and make myself feel dirty. It's ruining my life.
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I kinda regret making this post I'm sorry


I don't really cope, I end up repeating myself or my daily routine 4-5 times as if I mess up once I have to start all over again. It really bothers me and stresses me out at times.


I dunno if this can possibly help you, but I too have to have to perfectly complete my routine, but what I do when I mess up, is I do everything backwards—literally—until I'm back at a state where I know everything before it was in order. For example, If I put toothpaste on my toothbrush before rinsing it, I suck the toothpaste back into the tube and then rinse the toothbrush, then put the toothpaste back on the toothbrush. It's really gross, but over all it's better than doing the whole routine over. I've also made that specific mistake only extremely rarely after I started using the backtracking trick. It's like a personal `undo.'
Another thing is I modularized my routine into self-contained subroutines, so that if I mess up, and I need to start over, I can start over at the start of the subroutine that I messed up.


i got put on a mood stabilizer and it helped me, i still get the urges but i take it less badly when I can't follow up on them


i have ocd too! heres some misc advice
-ignore what the other people say, therapy and medicine can help and is a perfectly valid way to receive help. their pessimistic viewpoints wont help you at all.
-if you can resist the compulsion for thirty minutes you can sometimes bypass it entirely. start with small resistances and set timers, or when it comes time to preform the action make a mistake in doing so
-if you compulsively wash your hands like I do, try using bar soap instead of liquid (better for hands) and use lotions/vaseline for roughness
-trying to raise your self love can help you to respect your own triggers
-dont fight the intrusive thoughts, simply let them be. write them down and burn em or scribble over it or whatever. but don't give the thought power by fighting it or arguing with it, simply acknowledge it and let it dissipate with time
I hope things get better.
lots of love,

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I feel like my mind is in a cage, like, i dont act like a normal person, i know im not a normal person, but everytime someone asks me if im okay i dont know what to say, even know im struggling so hard trying to find the words for what happens to me, can you give me some advices on how to improve on my comunication with people? it feels like everytime i try to talk to someone, there's a voice in my head that tries to sabbotage everything, tells me what to say and doesn't allow me to be myself, i swear i dont know who i am anymore


I always instantly regret talking to someone and sharing any details about myself. I struggle really hard to attempt to be social as I was many years ago. Things are a lot different in life then they were before. I have this raging desire to do more as well as be more. I probably come off as awkward but at this point I'm trying to put myself in more uncomfortable situations. I need to learn how to split my personal life in the real world and then have my own through my "digital" one. I also need to make sure to remind myself that is okay. I don't have to be just one side of myself at all times. We as human beings are very complex and sometimes the conversations we have we'll say things we regret. I'm going to try to start taking that as a lesson to learn. If I notice something off with what I say or go through that pain of regret after I walk away from talking to someone. I'm going to try to work on myself to practice harder for the next time. It may be kind of terrible to say but I think I'm going to begin to practice lying somewhat as well. Nothing major, just little small lies or random off-topic stuff for small talk.


Which has always been my weak-point in most casual settings. I have a bad habit of wanting to share more then I need to in attempts to feel closer to someone in person as well. I don't connect well with others but for some reason I've been able to get some people that has come and gone throughout my life to treat me like some sort of priest who they have confessed great as well as terrible things to. Granted that was more common many years ago when I was more stable than I am today. I hope to be able to regain a lot of who I was that I have lost throughout the years with all of the hardships and pain I have greatly suffered. Sorry if it seems as if I'm just rambling but if you want to take any pointers from my post and try to apply them yourself maybe it could help. Either way, good luck OP.

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No. 1054 [Reply]

Painting by David Ditchfield.

Tell me about your (or any) near death experiences. Or out of body experiences. I'm fascinated by them.


looks like a benis…

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No. 960 [Reply]

Post what you did today to work towards your goals. Or if you did nothing, reflect on why and how you'll do better (don't be too hard on yourself though, perhaps you can even still do something today, even if small?). Hopefully you will feel more motivated and accountable.

>why not just use deeds?

I don't want to spam deeds for boring or very minor things, I'm ok with posting it in a thread though.
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That ending situation possibly could have ended up worse and brought slight paranoia to me. Overall, the day was about attempting my goal of trying to get out of the house to focus on self-improvements one day at a time. The only other comments I have to make about the day is I don't see how people honestly work 8 hours a day while wearing a mask, I'm glad we didn't stay in locations very long as I was already suffocating after 15-25 minutes of wearing my mask. I'm not sure what I plan on doing next, I guess I'll try to visit or reach out to other family while also possibly working on some physical routine. Maybe even try cleaning up a little bit around the house. I'm not sure what to do about work yet as I'm still not yet ready to take that leap. But it's hard to not feel stressed out with everything going on when you don't have a source of income and my girlfriend has already been as patient with me as she has. Sorry for the long blogpost, hope everyone else is well, and doing what they can to make it through their personal ordeals. (Post 6)


Sorry that I had to split >>989 >>990 >>991 >>992 >>993 >>994 into six parts, didn't realize that the post limit size was what it was on here. It's been a while since I've been on here and thought I'd return once and a while. Another goal that I've been trying to achive is to communicate with others after a long period of isolation from any type of networking whatsoever. I'm trying to get the hang of honestly, just living again.


I continued with getting out of the house again today. This time I didn't really go anywhere in public, just got picked up and visited with my grandma for a couple of hours. Played with the dog a little bit even though I eventually started to get annoyed with it. Then ate dinner with her, helped back up some files for her onto laptop, and came home. The visit went okay, she ended up getting me a new pair of shoes which I needed while she was out earlier in the day. Once I got home, I felt somewhat motivated to do a small bit of house work. I changed the filter in the house, did some laundry, and took out the trash. My goal of self-improvement is still running it's course for two days in a row. I'm hoping I don't lose focus and start to slump back into my depression as well as become unmotivated to do anything again. Coming on here and posting about it as well as the "deeds" section is nice. I've thought on possibly making a blog or working on a small webpage. I just really don't want to throw an actual "personality" with it but maybe go by a pseudonym. I don't want a lot of attention towards me or my actual identity. Maybe just some way to keep somewhat an online diary of sorts of my day to day life with various topics. Of course at this time, it's just a mere thought.


I focused more on my mental health today by having a couple of self induced pep talks. Followed with some minimal straightening up around the house, such as throwing some stuff away and making the bed. Then I ate some dinner and tried some meditation. I wanted to keep myself calm as I started to feel some anxiety throughout the early parts of the day. It seemed to help for the most part. I'm going to try to find something different to take care of throughout the night hours. I might just relax and watch a movie, I'm not entirely sure yet.


This makes me sad because I used to set goals with my girlfriend every day. We'd wake up in the morning, greet each other with a goodmorning, and list our goals for the day. It was great.

Now, though, she's really been having difficulty with her depression, and I want her to be the best she can but it's so hard having to be emotionally there for her all the time and still try to do my own things. I feel like I'm getting bogged down and it sucks because I think she is such a wonderful person who doesn't deserve to feel such pain.

I'm a big believer that what you believe is reflected in what you do, but I really am torn as to what to do. I love her so much, but I'm tired and what I do is only a bandage on what the underlying issues are. She's been too busy to see a therapist and therapy in the past hasn't been too good for her. I'm sorry if this doesn't fit in, but I just wish someone out there could hear me and not think poorly on her. I wish I could be stronger for her.

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my adhd is getting to an unmanageable point. My motivation is gone, and all that I can focus on are my distractions. I wish for relief from the hell I am trapped in. I have dreams and aspirations and most importantly assignments due but I am stuck in this hell.

I hate my screen, I hate YouTube, I hate reddit, I hate 4chan. I am lost in the modern world. I need help
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see a doctor


I second this.

Meditation could help, OP. It usually helps those feeling lost.


2 things. Get a good site blocker that can't be removed (I recommend cold turkey). Block every slacking site, even educational ones like youtube, for a certain time block and slowly increase it.

Next try to deconstruct why you're not doing work. Often it's a feeling of shame, so learn to forgive yourself, or an overwhelming feeling, break the task down than. If it's adhd you should look into the methods they use to start tasks

Again if it's ADHD I'd look into starting medication or taking an off the counter stimulant, coffee, to start building those good habits and then weening off.

Finally what helped me if repeating that starting an assignment or going without social media wont kill me


go walk or take the bus as far as you can and get lost for a little while


I'm also stuck in a hellish void of doing literally nothing but staying in an "imageboard loop" where I just go from imageboard to imageboard then I'll masturbate. Fix something to eat or some coffee. Might watch an episode of an anime or a 30-60 minute documentary. Then repeat until I go to bed at the crack of dawn just to repeat again each and everyday. I've been like this for at least 5 years straight now.

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No. 984 [Reply]

Paranoid thinking. Can't order food from Door Dash or Uber Eats. They'll poison it. Don't want to make dinner, it'll make more dishes. I don't want to do the dishes because I'm tired. I'm permanently tired because of depression. Get anxious because I think my life is spiraling. Desperately want to break the chain but being too uncomfortable to do so.

I'm scared.
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That's really good to hear. I'm still hoping to achieve any improvements. I haven't made any steps yet on attempting to find a psychologist or even return to where I went before. I feel as if due to the pandemic they'd want me to do video calls or something over the phone which I'm not willing to do at all. Such a troubling situation. I guess I can say, I haven't really become any worse. I've been avoiding specific negative triggers that throw me into panic states as well. I never had heard about that regarding the Columbine survivor though. Interesting and extremely wild odds.


get some exercise. you dont even have to go outside. do some pushups and squats. at least open a window though


I'd give you a source but I can't seem to find it, so I sure hope I wasn't accidentally giving false information. Anyway, my therapist does phone calls and not video calls. Is it possible you can ask them to do a phone call instead since you can't do video calls?

Exercise really helps tbh but my kneecaps absolutely despise squats. I end up doing yoga a lot of the time and then walking on the treadmill. Works just as good for me.


I'm too scared about the phone calls being recorded. I probably wouldn't really talk about anything specific or be truthful being on the phone.


most of your paranoid/anxious thinking will be solved by just eating food. yeah, exercise is good too as other anons have said, but eating is primarily important. second is sleep. third is exercise.

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No. 592 [Reply]

I read once that if you go deep enough through your anus, you can reach the spleen.
Suposedly massaging the spleen internally grants an incredibly intense sensation, like a constant orgasm that doesn't run out.
Couldn't find any info on Google, i doubt there's any truth to it, but i'm still curious nonetheless, have you guys ever heard anything about it?
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You're being trolled. They're trying to get you to die embarrassingly.


I suspect someone just got the spleen and prostate confused


Follow your dreams :^)


This thread makes me exceedingly uncomfortable.


This is from Guts by Chuck Palahniuk by the way. Gross read, don't recommend it.

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No. 975 [Reply]

I always get to work on time. I always do my job. I get a workout. I'm good to my mother. Why am I still so unsatisfied with myself? Why am I never enough, why am I always inadequate?


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If you really do all these things, you aren't inadequate. As for not feeling satisfied with yourself… who knows?

I don't know a lot about life. I'm 15 and I'm not that smart. From what I can gather, people raise kids to fill something in their life. They get married. They buy land, and pick up hobbies. They build things with their hands, like a shed or something. I dunno.


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From what you described you seem to have the main 4 levels down, Working and loving for your fellow samaritans, but What bout you? Does working out act as a fulfilling third place between work & home? Is there any aspirations & passions you'd want to make space & time for


Everything above survival needs aren't needs. Further the distinction between safety and physiological needs is bunk. There are survival needs—the things without which you simply cannot be—and there is what you really want to do with your life. Without satisfying your survival needs, it'll be difficult to do what you really want to do. Some persons don't really have any special desires, so they'll be fine with just maximizing the satisfaction of their survival needs. I really only care about one thing, so that's what I built my life around. In terms of satisfying my needs, I figured a way to do that that's integrated with that lifestyle, so I never feel like I have to `work' to survive: I live in my own happy little world.
The problem seems to be that what you're doing with your life is not what you really want to be doing with your life, or it is but there's something missing. You should know more about your life than I do, so I won't tell you what changes will work for you, but there are some general suggestions about how to figure it out. As banal as it sounds, trying different things tends to be a good place to start.
It could also be a mental health condition. If lifestyle changes don't improve your malaise, professional help may be beneficial.


I think I'd like to raise crickets.

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Does anyone like tarot?
I don't use them to try to foresee my future, but I like to appeal to the symbolism as a way to gain a different perspective on the present. I find the symbolism to be very deep and almost archetypal. Like old folk tales, different artists have made their own interpretations and representations of the cards over many years. Their true value and power has persisted through these various variations.
Two people just quit at my job right before the start of holiday season, and one of my tires went flat. But, drawing this card reminds me to stand tall and stay resilient, despite any past blows.
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BTW this isnt op


I know.
And I know.

I just want to get into because it seems fun.


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I do Tarot. Been doing so I was 15 and got a Rider Waite deck from my mom for birthday.

I also own a Crowley Thoth.

I can try to help answer questions if needed.


I use tarot in two ways, and one of them is has taken me into undesirable states a few times, so I tend to stick to the psychological model.

Tarot's like a Rorschach test. Tarot's meaning and imagery is sort of based on Jungian archetypes; common elements that exist in all human psyche.

When you ask a question or just pull cards, your subconscious projects what it wants you to see. It's like a dream. You don't control dreams, some other part of your mind you aren't aware of at the present is pulling the strings, putting on a play for you. Tarot allows you to do the same thing, but on top of a framework.

For instance, when you pull the Ace of Wands, which signifies new artistic or passion-driven work, don't interpret it as "you'll get inspired". Just see the card, and allow your mind to project what it wants, which is often the deepest thing you want, but might have been avoiding for reasons x y.

I prefer Past Present Future draws.

Past indicates the pattern/idea/thing that set up the situation
Present is the current situation
Future is what could possibly end up happening if you stay on this course.


Why does Rider-Waite add all that extra symbolism on the minor cards that earlier decks like Marseilles don't have?

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