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No. 435 [Reply]

Hello, my friends.

For a while now I have had the assumption that I, personally, perceive the state of "feeling touched / moved" as more extreme than other people, though I have no idea why that might be.
The best example for this is whenever my dear mom passionately tells me about things she has done, for instance crafting some decoration, how proud she is of the outcome and that she'd like to show me. I perceive this as really cute and am extremely moved every time, but this "aww"-feeling seems more like sadness than anything else and one time even caused me to have some sort of emotional breakdown. One where I was crying for 2 hours straight, and I didn't even know what for - I still don't, in fact. This can't be entirely normal, can it?

My mom is the person I love most in this world, so then why do I feel so sad at times where her happiness shines through the most? Does it subconsciously remind me that I won't have her around forever? Maybe it reminds me of times when I wasn't good to her and I feel more grief now whenever I see how nice of a person and thus how undeserving she was of bad things that happened in the past?

Maybe some anons here have had similar experiences - if so, please tell us! Or maybe all of this really is normal after all and this is just what feeling moved is all about.

No.436

It can be """normal""" if you are an introvert. Because introverts can be more intense with feelings when they are real.

Daydreaming imagining your mom dead and how you could've been a better person to your family or close friends and whatever, happens sometimes inside the mind of introverts, because they fantasize too much.

But if it's been occurring for a long time, all the time, it might be depression.

I was used to feel this way almost everyday, but it's getting better. Start to exercise, you can run, jump, ride a bike or something. I promise you're gonna feel better.

No.437

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>>435
this is pretty much how I feel when I'm finally coming out of a long period of depression. i get emotional over the smallest things, even to the verge of tears sometimes. but i usually readjust and things level out after about a week or so.

No.444

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Seems like you are just a sensitive person – those who can experience deep sadness can also experience the mirrored deep happiness (awe, meaning, etc.). Crying for 2 hours may seem like a long time, but perhaps there was some unexpressed pain you had to let out.

I have cried at paintings, sunlight glinting on a body of water, a sunset seen from a plane, seeing people gathered and relaxed all together in one place. This is the gamut of human experience.

No.445

>>437
Same here (but for shorter periods).

For me it also seems to happen if I notice oncoming depression but manage to avoid the spiral of negative thoughts, which I guess leaves me still biochemically fucked up for a while but not sad.

No.488

>>435
Every now and then, something strikes me for no conceivable reason. I feel a very physical sort of pain. Just the other night, I remembered how my mother used to say "ballie" instead of ball. That almost made me cry for the first time in I don't know how many years. I have no idea why, maybe I yearn for the innocence of days past. Another time is when I heard a quote from Jules Verne, about how two ship at sea, with no obstacles between them, will inevitably find each other. That seemed to strike me on some fundamental level. Once I just felt some primal urge that told me to run as fast as I can and never stop. It was so strong, and the knowledge that I couldn't do that made me feel like I was being torn in half. I don't know why the feeling comes in such strong waves, or what causes it. I don't know why it hurts, but it does. And, like I said, it's a literally physical kind of pain.



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No. 462 [Reply]

Most of the time I'm a pretty reserved and quiet person. I can be kinda awkward at times but I'm not a complete sperg. I think one of my biggest issues is I just never know what to say which leads to a conversation that fizzles out and dies really fucking quick.

I want to become a better conversationalist
How do i get better at talking to people irl
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No.466

>>464
I do try to do this but sometimes I struggle to think of questions to even ask. Or Ill ask a question, theyll answer, and say something like uhuh thats interesting… then the convo dies sometimes cause I dont have another followup

No.467

>>465
I don't mind, as long as it helps you we're all good.
invite me on discord joão#8767

No.468

So did you two end up talking? I'm just curious.

No.469

>>468
Not yet. I'm lazy and a coward so I never reached out to him. Why should I bother to do hard work on improving myself when I can just fap to porn and play videogames

No.471

>>469
I don't think this is the right attitude to have, anon!
You should try, at least once!
Here, have mine, in case you change your mind and want to improve yourself : Eidolon#3693



No. 438 [Reply]

I saw a short interview with the actor who played Barney the Dinosaur the other day. I know it sounds ridiculous but I can't stop thinking about it. Here's a guy with probably one of the shittiest jobs I can imagine and he's just radiating happiness while talking about it. Imagine being in that giant suit, having to dance around for hours probably to kiddie music, the studio lights beaming down on you, you can barely see anything and you're sweating like crazy. But this guy has nothing but positive things about the experience, in fact he says he "loved" being Barney. Most people who do costume work only do it to move up to something better but this guy played Barney for TEN YEARS. He even loves the annoying "I love you" song that Barney sings which he's probably had to listen to thousands of times over the years.

I can't stop thinking about how positive and happy this guy is. I'm such a aggressive, pessimistic, stressed-out person. If I had a job like that, I would probably complain about it all the time. I wish I could be like him and see it as nothing but pure joy. I want whatever he has. In the video, he mentions that he studies Tantra and regularly did meditation. Do you think that's the key to becoming calm and content like he is? Or is that just who he is as a person?

No.459

Some people simply live their façade of normalcy. Like, for whatever reason they can't even entertain negative thoughts. A job requiring constant positivity would just reinforce this behavior with the added spur of financial gain.

Saccharine shit like singing the same happy song over and over again just helps them feel validated within their delusions of everything being perfect. It's an interesting psychological survival strategy but it leaves you unaware of your own issues until you crash into them headfirst.



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No. 263 [Reply]

Why do I have no discipline?
Why can't I do anything?
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No.354

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Because you don't believe that you can. Yes, it's a cliche. Yes it's unhelpful; it is still true. I used to feel exactly the same way as you did, as though my life was on rails and completely out of my control. I had vague ideas of things that I thought I might want, but never for a moment believed that they would be achievable or could actually happen.
It may not surprise you to hear that I was very depressed for some time; ironically, it was when it got unbearable that I set myself free, completely by accident. I bought some heroin and lots of valium off the darknet with the aim of downing a bottle of vodka and dieing (inb4 not the most effective method, yada yada yada).
And then it occurred to me. Just sitting in despair in my room living off handouts, I could get access to some of the most powerful drugs the world has ever known delivered straight to my door. Isn't that crazy? Imagine what I could do if I put my mind to it!
Look the point of all this is that you need to embrace the absurdity. Chase a whale. Push a boulder up a hill. Smoke some rocks. Just do <something>, for Christs sake. Not something you never thought you could do, because you'll mentally block yourself from doing it. Do something entirely new, that is entirely unlike you.
It could be as simple as getting dessert.

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>>263
I feel man. Every time I want to get into something new or study a subject, after some time I lose interest and drive to ever look at it again.
I've fallen so many times into this spiral of apathy and despair.

No.374

I don't have discipline unless I have stress and pressure. So if I was to guess for you anon its probably the same. Just give yourself something to stress over and a deadline to hit it.

No.450

I was just about to post this exact same topic.

>354


This is really true. I think I was just born a POS garbage person and don't think I can change it. Like when I think about "people who exercise" or "organized people" and wish I was like them…it just seems impossible and well, I'm not *one of those people*. I'm a garbage person.

How do I stop believing this?

No.451

>>450
just know that you can change, but it will take a conscious, sometimes grueling, effort. force yourself to learn small habits. go for a walk every morning, or put things back where they belong. over time, these good habits will overtake your old, bad ones and be easier to stick to.



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No. 429 [Reply]

Anyone else doing this?

I know a lot of people are skeptical of any health benefits that could be gained from not wagglin your willly and idk if there are true health benefits myself, but I know for sure I am addicted to pornography and I want to stop. I have many personal reasons as to why I want to stop masturbating and watching porn.

So thoughts on nofap?
Tips and tricks to help fight the urge when it comes?

No.430

I don't know about health benefits and I can see it being a harm if you are used to jerking yourself more than once a day and then going to 0 for a long time.

It's certainly an act of self discipline though. If you manage to hold this for a whole month I'm sure you'll find the will and energy to do other things like study or medidate.

Best of luck anon.

No.432

>>430
I'm also of the opinion that it's more of an exercise in self-control than anything. I personally fap a few times a day even though I, "don't want to." but it definitely saps my motivation after I'm done.

My only cure is to keep busy, but even working 12 hours a day isn't busy enough, so honestly it's really hard for me to go more than a couple days without coming across some anime grill thumbnail that boils my oil.



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No. 402 [Reply]

Does anyone here suffer from tinnitus? How you deal with the blasted ringing when it comes? I feel like I can't enjoy the simple pleasures of music anymore.
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No.411

Yeah, although it's mostly notable at night nowadays. It used to be pretty loud but over the years it has become some sort of low volume static.
The world is loud in general.

No.412

I have it, but it's not that loud for me. Hence why i got used to it easily. One of my friends has it too, but it's much worse for him, his tip for me was to ignore it, just how one anon said already. You'll get used to it, eventually.

No.415

I've heard from several people that the white/pink/brown noise generators on https://mynoise.net/ can help alleviate tinnitus for a while. If it's more of a pulsing ring, maybe sine waves can also help.

No.416

OP here, happy to report that it is getting better now. I gave more focus to listening to the world and music around me (at safe levels) than the tinnitus. When it comes though, I let it happen. Acceptance truly gives it less energy, and though it is still a bother, it isn't a big one anymore ;)

No.417

>>416
Im glad to hear that.



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No. 376 [Reply]

I don't have problems with alarm but I literally can't get out of bed, I spend hours (yes, hours) in my bed just draydreaming and escaping to a fantasy world
What should I do to stop it?

No.377

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>>376
Does it affect you negatively? As in, hindering any daily necessary productivity.

No.381

>>377
It is like a drug, I'm happy in my fantasy world but when I come back to reality, when I realize that all of this things aren't real I feel bad and defeated
Also my body hurt, the inaction affect me and my muscles feel tired

No.400

>>376
I know this.I think you had Maladaptive daydreaming disorder, i have it too.Okay a lil story time: i was bullied through high school(quite relentlessly) and i used daydreaming as a escapism.My grade drastically dropped, i didn't even lived in reality anymore, and even the concept of it was quite blurry for me.I had this alternative universe with my imaginary friends who will protect me and i spend all my time in this fake fantasy.I drew them, wrote stories about them in my notebook.I was totally detached from reality.When i graduated think just became weider .I moved to a new town had friends (i still have them) but my expectio about people were really high because of my daydreams.I have less and less fantasy about my alternative universe since my life became crucially better.
How could you stop it?
Seek a therapist, they helped me a lot.Also improve your life conditons, daydreaming is a form of escapism and its usually roots in lonliness.
All the best for you, sorry for the blogpost.



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No. 76 [Reply]

We got any teafags up in here?
>not drinking a nice warm cup of chamomile every night before going to bed
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>>369
chamomile is very tasty and can help calm your nerves a bit. roasted barley can be made into a tea. it has a nice savory almost soupy taste and pairs well with a sweet dessert. hojicha is a nice savory tea as well. while it's technically a green tea, it has some caffeine, but it is less stimulating than black tea.

No.371

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I drink one or two pots of green tea a day. Just put the pot on a stove, and 3 minutes in I'll put it in the bag and let it seep while the pot is being heated up. When it's done I'll burn some cheap incense, and sit down listening to music, while reading or lurking.
>>337
It's the only thing I can stand the taste of lately since I have been trying to break myself of soda for my teeth. Used to drink a lot of lipton but I can't anymore because it tastes too acidic, and there's too much sugar in it. Tea is meant to be drank without any sugar.

No.372

>>371
you should try doing that with loose tea, it's one of the best ways to make tea because the leaves have a lot of space to float around and give off a full body of flavor. i wish my family was into plain green and black teas so i could make a big pot of it each morning as a little ritual

No.373

>>372
I'll have to get into that then at some point. Right now I'm just drinking the Yamotayama nip import brand from the stores. I like it a lot better than Bigelow. So when I get through my current 3 boxes I'll give that a try. Any good brands?

No.375

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>>373
I order from Adagio a lot because it ships from my state, but it is a pretty good balance between quality and price if you're looking to try a lot of different kinds or for buying samples. Tealyra is pretty good for plain chinese/japanese teas in my experience. Teavivre is great for high quality chinese teas. You may have had Stash tea before if you usually buy from stores, they are usually sold as bags but you can buy loose tea from them online and I've heard it's decent quality.



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No. 185 [Reply]

Has anyone else tried an enneagram personality test? I just heard about it and took it, was a little scared how dead on it was. Though I guess people always say that about personality tests.

Got type 5, balanced wings.
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No.199

I've taken a couple different tests, but they never give me one solid answer; they're split between type 5 and 9. I guess my answers lean a bit more towards 5, and that's the description that seems to fit me better too.

No.234

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just took the test at
http://similarminds.com/test.html

not entirely sure what to make of these results tbh…

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No.447

>>185
I have done the test a few months ago, the result was a tie between 5w6 and 6w5 - I did a bit of research and enneagram 6 fits more for me.

No.538

The tests aren't very reliable, you should read the theory yourself to see what type you are.



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No. 157 [Reply]

I know that this might be pushing at the limits of this boards topic a bit, but towards what end are you living your life, anon?
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No.277

>>276
What are some ways you would involve yourself in your community? Asking for possible ideas for myself

No.278

Purge the system of all bogeys and move on to the next one, and so on for all eternity

No.279

>>277
For me: community gardening, food sharing program, esperanto speaking group, nonfiction book club, occasional board gaming. Used to volunteer with a fix your own bike sessions.
Though I think I'd like to discover more hackspaces soon.
For searching in your local area meetup.com might be useful, it has for me.

But obviously it is different for what your interests are. Contributing to online communities counts too!

What interests do you think you'd like to share/learn with others?

No.326

My life is a series of projects and I have no real intention of ever retiring, nor do I have one supreme goal which will terminate my life when I reach it. I honestly have too much I want to do. I want to see how far I can go with what little I've been given.

>>279
That's awesome. Thank you for the ideas anon.

No.393

I'm living till I die.

There's nothing deeper to it than that.



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