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No. 975 [Reply]

I always get to work on time. I always do my job. I get a workout. I'm good to my mother. Why am I still so unsatisfied with myself? Why am I never enough, why am I always inadequate?

No.978

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>>975
If you really do all these things, you aren't inadequate. As for not feeling satisfied with yourself… who knows?

I don't know a lot about life. I'm 15 and I'm not that smart. From what I can gather, people raise kids to fill something in their life. They get married. They buy land, and pick up hobbies. They build things with their hands, like a shed or something. I dunno.

No.983

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From what you described you seem to have the main 4 levels down, Working and loving for your fellow samaritans, but What bout you? Does working out act as a fulfilling third place between work & home? Is there any aspirations & passions you'd want to make space & time for

No.998

>>983
Everything above survival needs aren't needs. Further the distinction between safety and physiological needs is bunk. There are survival needs—the things without which you simply cannot be—and there is what you really want to do with your life. Without satisfying your survival needs, it'll be difficult to do what you really want to do. Some persons don't really have any special desires, so they'll be fine with just maximizing the satisfaction of their survival needs. I really only care about one thing, so that's what I built my life around. In terms of satisfying my needs, I figured a way to do that that's integrated with that lifestyle, so I never feel like I have to `work' to survive: I live in my own happy little world.
>>975
The problem seems to be that what you're doing with your life is not what you really want to be doing with your life, or it is but there's something missing. You should know more about your life than I do, so I won't tell you what changes will work for you, but there are some general suggestions about how to figure it out. As banal as it sounds, trying different things tends to be a good place to start.
It could also be a mental health condition. If lifestyle changes don't improve your malaise, professional help may be beneficial.

No.1005

I think I'd like to raise crickets.



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No. 583 [Reply]

Does anyone like tarot?
I don't use them to try to foresee my future, but I like to appeal to the symbolism as a way to gain a different perspective on the present. I find the symbolism to be very deep and almost archetypal. Like old folk tales, different artists have made their own interpretations and representations of the cards over many years. Their true value and power has persisted through these various variations.
Two people just quit at my job right before the start of holiday season, and one of my tires went flat. But, drawing this card reminds me to stand tall and stay resilient, despite any past blows.
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No.658

BTW this isnt op

No.659

>>656
I know.
>>657
And I know.

I just want to get into because it seems fun.

No.660

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I do Tarot. Been doing so I was 15 and got a Rider Waite deck from my mom for birthday.

I also own a Crowley Thoth.

I can try to help answer questions if needed.

No.977

I use tarot in two ways, and one of them is has taken me into undesirable states a few times, so I tend to stick to the psychological model.

Tarot's like a Rorschach test. Tarot's meaning and imagery is sort of based on Jungian archetypes; common elements that exist in all human psyche.

When you ask a question or just pull cards, your subconscious projects what it wants you to see. It's like a dream. You don't control dreams, some other part of your mind you aren't aware of at the present is pulling the strings, putting on a play for you. Tarot allows you to do the same thing, but on top of a framework.

For instance, when you pull the Ace of Wands, which signifies new artistic or passion-driven work, don't interpret it as "you'll get inspired". Just see the card, and allow your mind to project what it wants, which is often the deepest thing you want, but might have been avoiding for reasons x y.

I prefer Past Present Future draws.

Past indicates the pattern/idea/thing that set up the situation
Present is the current situation
Future is what could possibly end up happening if you stay on this course.

No.986

>>660
Why does Rider-Waite add all that extra symbolism on the minor cards that earlier decks like Marseilles don't have?



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No. 270 [Reply]

How many of you guys are hikkis? It is not something I am proud of personally, yet, it's only been about a month into my second relapse. Have any of you been through this, and have you any advice?
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No.963

>>925
>I'm sorry to hear that man, your story sounds a lot like mine. How are you holding up?
Same as years ago. I'm waiting till my anchors are gone so I can go too.
>Do you have any support, family or otherwise?
Not really and things are getting exponentially worse post-corona. Health and economic issues.
>Have you tried medical help? Is that accessible where you live? Antidepressants are far from great, but in a desperate situation, they can help restart things.
I am not going to see a doctor ever again. I am tired of being told I am the problem and that somehow I have deluded myself that life is unbearably painful when it's not. This life is clearly something I don't want. There is nothing I can do in this life that would give me purpose or happiness. All my dreams have been shattered one by one. I thought the internet would have given me an opportunity but it's straight up impossible to do what I would have liked to do. I do not want to become yet another zombie working some shitty retail job while chugging antidepressants. I would rather die while I am free.
I had asked for so little, I even prayed, I earnestly kneeled and prayed to a God I didn't believe in, to have something back for all the shit I've been through. Nothing, it was too much to ask.
This might be my last post, I'm done with imageboards.

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>>551 here.
One year later. I'm my third semester now, I decided to go for a degree in Chemistry, first semester was ok, I had some of the best grade among my peers, and meet some friends, and actually got attention from a lot of girls which was a surprise to be honest, (I end up loosing my V-card, but I'm not very proud of the whole thing) second semester was meh I'm back to being friendless and with the Corona outbreak I'm back to my home not quite as a Hikki but at least I'm comfy, now I'm starting the third hopefully every will be fine this semester, a part of me wants to stay at home for the rest of the uni, to be honest there's nothing that attach me to the Uni and specially the city I have to move in order to go to college, even if Virtual classes are a pain I still prefer to be in the commodity of my home.

I wish I had something more important to tell you guys, but haven't done anything more interesting beside studying, I got some ""friends"", and I got a short ""relation"" but now everything is back to normal, and that's much better, I have to confess that I still feel 0 passion or anything like that for my career path, but I noticed I'm better student that the average person, so I think I can manage my way through the rest of the semester.

In the mean time I have to tell you guys that I finally accomplished one of my long dreams that was to build a decent computer (I know, not much of a dream but I really wanted it), I saved for years and this year finally managed to built it.

I've been feeling a lack of motivation the last semester and I don't think it will go away anytime soon, but I'll be fine.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SNq4zqTN_DQ

No.968

>>884
Anon, your support almost make me tear up, but I don't think I deserve so much support from you, in the end I'm still a capable human been, my life hasn't been particularly hard, but I got into the Hikkikomori life-style for the same reasons most of the people get into that life-style, and my 'recovery' has been going if not well, at least decent.

In the end I'm just probably just another socially inept lazy scum (that's how I've been called), but hey, thanks for your support Anon, it really meant a lot to me, even if we are just strangers.

I hope your life is doing ok too, I'll cheer up for you too.
See you next year.



Thanks for listening, this be my last update for this year.
/blog

No.974

Not a hikki quite yet, but I am definitely a NEET, complete with SSI. I don't believe I'll ever fully be able to work because my public school teachers were so emotionally abusive that they purposely docked my grades. I can't even drive. I don't pay attention well enough.

I genuinely want to become better and live a life outside of being a NEET. It's my dream to open a little store where I sell handmade goods. No idea if I'll ever achieve it, but it's a nice thought to cling to when life gets rough.

No.976

I've rarely been a full hikki, since I would still be forced by my family to go to school or occasionally shopping, but I would become one on breaks and holidays. The closest I got to being a full one I suppose is 2 years ago when I lived away from home for the first time and spiraled into the worst depressive episode I've ever had. I stopped going to any of my classes through the middle of the semester and ate every single meal in bed. Essentially I only got up to shower and use the bathroom.

I think some bad life events that meant I would ultimately have to drop out of school if I continued being a hikki, such as my father refusing to support me financially at all anymore and my grandmother getting cancer (My mother decided to sell our house and leave the country to go care for her), made me start being more active in trying to get myself out of that lifestyle. I started self-studying Japanese, after having taken it for 4 years in high school, and it became a huge passion that I absorbed myself in learning all-day long. This was very important because up until then I don't think I had ever had a single thing in my life that I had been remotely passionate or disciplined enough to keep working at. I believe getting the discipline from that slowly started seeping improvements into other areas of my life, which is why the advice I always like to give now is to find a passion. It may sound like a tired cliche, but I do think it is extremely important to find some area or subject that you will do anything to get good at, so to speak. It can serve as a small light in your darkest tunnel.



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No. 263 [Reply]

Why do I have no discipline?
Why can't I do anything?
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No.969

>>966
based reverse psychology

No.970

>>966
Hehe… It wouldn't be so sad if this wasn't true.
>>969
It didn't work :/.
I'm literally turning into a vegetable because of this corona thing going on.

No.971

Because you don't enjoy the thing you're trying to do. You just enjoy the results.

No.972

>>971
>Because you don't enjoy the thing you're trying to do. You just enjoy the results.
There are a lot of things you have to do you don't really like and don't really care about result.

No.973

>wanted to rewrite completely an imageboard and get rid of self-made abomination/database
>ended up just changing couple things, because I just didn't want to think.
How do I stop being such a lazy asshole? I mean, there was a motivation (because this self-made flat file thing had backfired countless times, because it is just another 9000th clone of 4chan/vichan/whatever type of a deal), but still it wasn't enough apparenlty



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No. 429 [Reply]

Anyone else doing this?

I know a lot of people are skeptical of any health benefits that could be gained from not wagglin your willly and idk if there are true health benefits myself, but I know for sure I am addicted to pornography and I want to stop. I have many personal reasons as to why I want to stop masturbating and watching porn.

So thoughts on nofap?
Tips and tricks to help fight the urge when it comes?

No.430

I don't know about health benefits and I can see it being a harm if you are used to jerking yourself more than once a day and then going to 0 for a long time.

It's certainly an act of self discipline though. If you manage to hold this for a whole month I'm sure you'll find the will and energy to do other things like study or medidate.

Best of luck anon.

No.432

>>430
I'm also of the opinion that it's more of an exercise in self-control than anything. I personally fap a few times a day even though I, "don't want to." but it definitely saps my motivation after I'm done.

My only cure is to keep busy, but even working 12 hours a day isn't busy enough, so honestly it's really hard for me to go more than a couple days without coming across some anime grill thumbnail that boils my oil.

No.957

>>432
What helped me was ceasing to use porn while masturbating. Not even using my imagination to picture sexually arousing images.

Now simply seeing porn doesn't instantly turn me on and I masturbate just when I actually want to do it. I crave the process and the feeling, rather than the pornography.

That's not so say that my fap frequency fell extremely low immediately, there are periods of time when it fluctuates, but my masturbation patterns and sexual arousal feel healthier than they were prior to absenting my self from porn

No.958

>health benefits
There are huge health benefits, especially if you replace the habit with something productive/healthy. Men who are addicted to masturbating will end up getting no pleasure from it eventually because they've constantly got this death grip on their dick (desensitization) meaning they will eventually never be able to cum from sex or getting sucked off. The high you get from cumming lasts a few seconds but destroying your dick will last forever. That will fuck up any of your future relationships because you'll be shit in bed. You'll probably struggle to even get it up. It will make your partner believe that you don't love them if you can't get hard or get no sexual pleasure from being with them. Your dick will thank you for not strangling it on a regular basis.

>psychological benefits

Porn fucks up your perception of reality. It affects your self-confidence. It affects how you see women. People with an addiction keep going for more and more extreme porn, you could never sustain a healthy relationship with another person in the future if the only thing that will get you off is piss and shit and strangulation. Think about how that could get you into trouble one day if what you're watching is illegal or looked down on by society. It affects how you see people in the office, your family, your friends and strangers on the street, you're seeing them as objects instead of living, breathing humans. It will affect your worldview, your politics and your morals. No partner will ever be good enough for you because they don't look/act like what you see in porn (especially if you're into hentai or something totally unrealistic like furries). When you stop watching porn, your confidence returns and you have much, much better relationships with everyone around you.

No.959

>>958
>replacing the habit
You're addicted to jerking off because it gives your brain chemical rush. It's temporary and then you go back to being bored/depressed. When you get the urge, if you can replace it with something that excites you (music, roller coasters, horror films, running), relaxes you (meditation, yoga, drinking tea), makes you happy (watching a film, listening to a podcast, reading) makes you feel accomplished (cooking, painting, journaling, DIY), helps you bond with someone (your partner/family/friends/pet) etc. then you will break your addiction and have a hobby that you can actually share with others. Better yet, use a combination of all of those things. Imagine the things you could create or consume with the hours you spend organizing your creepy porn folders. Think about why you consume porn and then try to find something that will give you the same high or joy or state of relaxation.

>if all else fails…

Educate yourself on the industry. This won't work for the most addicted people because they've already conditioned their brains into seeing porn stars and victims of revenge porn as objects but after a few weeks of going cold turkey, this will have more of an impact. Read accounts from porn starts who have left, interviews with directors and see how little they care about their actors/you. Human trafficking. Revenge porn. See the impact porn has on the lives of everyone involved in filming but also of those who become addicted (NEETs, divorcees, dead bedrooms, incels). Read accounts of people who have had their relationships/careers/lives destroyed by porn, people who have been sexually assaulted, court cases where people took their fetishes too far and actually hurt/killed someone. If you feel empathy, you can't enjoy porn.



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No. 668 [Reply]

I searched all boards, and was surprised to not find a thread for tulpas considering the imageboard we're on. I'm sure a few of you should have one though, so let's share and discuss everything associated with tulpas and tulpa creation.

If anyone isn't familiar with this, a "tulpa" is an entity created by meditation and imagination, which splits off your own consciousness in your mind and learns to act, feel, and think independently as its own personality. It becomes very much like a real person that talks to you and you experience life with it, but it's different from an imaginary friend in that it's sentient. With enough concentration and practice you can eventually superimpose your tulpa onto your own subjective reality and feel it with all five senses like a real person. A "wonderland" is an imaginary world that you construct in your mind to hang out in with your tulpa, scenarios can begin unfolding there on their own if you learn how to get into a hypnotic state via meditation and it's not unlike dreaming. As for dreams, you can meet your tulpa there and experience the dream together like a multiplayer game. This is just a simple explanation, and there's also lots of other stuff that you can do with your tulpa, but most other people make them at least for some kind of companionship.

For those of you who have tulpas, tell us about:
>who they are, what they're like, what they look like
>your wonderlands, what goes on there
>their creation/development process, how long it's been
>what your life is like with them, how it changed for you because of them
>whatever interesting experiences or problems you had and anything else you wanna share
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No.937

>tulpas will fuck you up in any meaningful way
If a tulpa does not recognize that its continued life relies on your health, wellbeing, and care for it, than you're probably dealing with a DID alter, or a demon lmao. not a tulpa
>do not make a tulpa if you are unprepared
Tulpas are actually very theraputic and helpful, if you're a loner, or need someone to look out for you verbally. Fleshed out tulpas can offer unique perspectives on things.
>i made friends so i didnt need my tulpa
this is retarded and cruel. get fucked.
>life moves past her attention
this is a truly difficult hurdle. when i had a wagie job, my tulpa was very young. i did my best to interact with her, and if anything, it increased a romantic bond, and a respitual feeling i would get from her between moments stolen where i could just embrace her, or laugh at her visual gags she would play on me.

her name is mont.

No.939

>>937
Glad you had a positive experience! I just couldn't handle a tulpa without my mind shattering, plus I only seem to attract negative entities so if I tried to create a tulpa no doubt they would turn on me and bad things would begin to happen. Plus I've talked about it with my therapist, and she agrees that it would be incredibly unhealthy for me.

No.940

>>674
Can you explain exactly what you mean by this? The idea in quantum physics that observation changes the outcome of an interaction is purely limited to the physical observation of small particles like the spin of an electron or the polarization of a photon. Plus you're not modifying the state by thinking about these things, the act of measurement collapses the possibility state into a single state which doesn't really have anything to do about your own subjective reality, it's an objective measurement.

No.946

>>939
if you dont trust your brain, than your best bet would be to practice meditation and in general wellness. cement yourself; clean out your body, meditate, pray (even if you're faithless). never let yourself remain vulnerable or weak. as fun of a life it may be, there is a reason the veil of content is pierced so easily, or all that is taken away.

No.956

>>946

Feels much easier said than done. I've been practicing my meditation however, especially at night, because I find a lot of peacefulness in it, especially in an inner sanctum.



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No. 615 [Reply]

Anon, did you make resolutions for the new year? Goals you want to follow? Bad habits to get rid of, good habits to get used to? This is the thread for discussion and sharing experience.

Note: Resolutions are not unique to new years. This thread is about the discussion of every goal we try to achieve in this year. If you started a day or a month into 2020, no worries. We would still like to hear what you have to say.

Mine are:
>Reduce fast food, once in 4 weeks (last time I went on the 28th so I can't go sooner than the 25th this month)
>Greatly limit internet time to 2h (using the internet for work does not count)
>Start the day by reading
>No sodas or alcohol
>Drink 4 of water every day

Remember not to beat yourself up by saying things like "Everyone breaks their resolution." or "Same shit every year.". Attitudes like this keep one stuck in the mud. Getting rid of such negativity can be the first goal.
If you rebound, you haven't failed. Losing track of your goal is the only way to fail so keep going and mind your actions.

This thread was made in 2020 but counts for all years after too.
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>>755
Anon, this may come off as the last suggestion you may have thought of hearing but I know a site that caters to images of all kinda, low to high brow, entirely depending on the user's choice.
Tumblr.

It is possible to make a quiet blog, only follow other blogs that post images or reblog them and not have much in terms of "social"-media. The website is flawed and has a (partly justified) bad rep but unlike all the other webspaces I've seen it allows for a very peaceful and homely experience.
It has a tagging system that allows you to add certain tags to posts to make it easier to find on a blog.

I hope you may find a place of rest to enjoy peace of mind.
I love Simberg too.

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>>758
That's actually an interesting suggestion that I hadn't thought of. I had tried using tumblr in the past, but I found it difficult to navigate and search through things, and even nice blogs often tended toward endless series of reblogs so you couldn't find out where it came from if you wanted more.

That said I think it's probably a good idea to try it out again. Thanks anon.

Yeah, Simberg is great, bright and comfy while also being somewhat melancholic and nostalgic at the same time.

No.789

>>615
OP back for a monthly update.
The hardest by far is the internet consumption. I have decided upon a different strategy with which I hope to eventually reach a point of little to not waste of time.

Instead of counting the hours, I forbid myself from going to the internet before noon. The week after, before 1PM. Then 2PM. Then 3PM. And so on,

There will be days when I have to check something earlier obviously but I think with this approach I might do better than up until now.

No.790

>>789
I'm also trying to formulate a plan with internet consumption. I'm trying to limit myself from getting on websites that take up more time and working my way down my bookmarks and try to space everything out that way I'm doing more. It's very difficult as I am almost certain I have autism with how difficult choices are on me when there's infinite ones of them with what websites to use and what communities to be a part of. But I'm trying to work on my selective process and my decisive skills.

No.949

>>748
>>789
I am also sick of the internet and I want to go, but I don't consume anything already. I stick around because I want to share my artwork but I have negative infinite self-esteem and social phobias so I can't function outside of anonymous websites. If I make two posts in a row under the same nickname I feel like I'm suffocating. I wanted to make an account on ArtStation and just seeing mandatory name/surname fields made me feel nauseous.
It's completely irrational since I do or say nothing that would warrant this kind of fear, I am just terrified of putting myself out there in the world and I'm slowly growing old while opportunities, people and everything else pass by.
Fear really is the mind killer. I don't know how to recover. Even professional help couldn't fix this psychosis.
I have no idea why I'm posting this here right now, I normally lurk. I'm going through such a troubled phase.



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No. 908 [Reply]

I didn’t know what board to put this under. I figured “mind” worked well. Art thread, post things you’re proud of. I made this with my girlfriend, enjoy
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No.921

>>913
Relax.

No.942

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>>908
really cool art, OP

No.943

>>942
very good photo
reminds me of my high school days

No.947

>>908
>random swastika
basido

No.948

>>908
really nice stuff



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No. 879 [Reply]

Lately, I've been struggling with keeping a positive attitude and continuing on being productive in these trying times. In the spirit of this, I decided to make a thread about the battle for constant self-improvement! I saw an anon on /fit/ recommend this guide, and read through it. It was very brusque but I did find a lot of parallels between my life and that of failure avoidance tactics that we either conciously or unconciously employ.

https://raouldify.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/2011_1203-the-flinch.pdf

Do any of you anons have any similar resources/experiences/advice?
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No.889

>>888
stop

No.890

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>>887
Please don't neglect the importance of earmuffs or earplugs, especially if you're going to be doing lawn work often and for hours at a time.

No.929

I was having zoom therapy course as part of a legal case. I found that my low moods come from me not working and being productive enough but that came from me not working as much cause of my accident. I started getting more productive and making more money again and have felt a lot better for it. So my therpay stopped. Ive been tired last few days but I will make myself get out there again.
Ive also told myself I cant drink until I reach certain goals, perhaps by then I wont want to. SO be productive and have goals is my advice.

No.938

I fail to see the benefit of a "positive attitude". Falling for the Cult of Positivity has no relevance to the real world.



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No. 819 [Reply]

Last night was… bad… I had a psychotic episode and I called a friend I hardly know 23 times. I don't even remember what dumb shit I said to get.

I woke up this morning and found a sticky note on my bed telling me to call her when I was feeling better. I stressed out about calling her but I eventually manned up and called her. It went… Shockingly well, actually. So well that I've actually got a date lined up for Saturday. Life is funny.
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No.902

Any updates?

>>901
What, so you can't share your issues with the person you're having a relationship with? Do you know what a relationship is? If the girl is really just doing this out of sympathy for OP, that will show very quickly. I can hardly see how this will 'destroy' the girl unless OP is an XXXTentacion-type violent depressive.

No.903

>>902
What part of
>a friend I hardly know
implies they were in a relationship?

No.910

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No.917

>>911
>>912
why are you posting pictures from your facebook?

No.920

>>919
who are these girls anyway?



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