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No. 211 [Reply]

Bottling only makes it harder.
This thread is intented for people who would like to rant and write out their feelings.

It's possible to just spill everything in the textbox, explain it detailed or even write poems/haikus or stories, whatever your want.
You can give yourself a time- or character limit if you feel overwhelmed with writing down all that is going on.
You may also ask for advice or similiar.


It's hard to keep up a happy face, don't hide under a mask in order to lie to yourself.
Be honest with yourself and your feelings, that's the first step towards self improvement.
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No.886

>>873
to a touhou right?

No.905

>>211
i don't know if this justifies a post this large, but last night my gf basically was being really heated. Last argument we had she sorta dipped her toes in to personally trying to hurt me and using things i've told her against me. Last night it got worse, whatever embarrassing stuff over the past two years, mocking me for being bisexual, basically just trying to make me feel worse about myself… I'm pretty stressed as is to be honest but I feel like cant continue. argument started because she sent me some messages about a song. I opened it and didn't respond because I was busy, she just ended up deleting it all saying some passive aggressive stuff like "im just gonna leave you alone" "enjoy your game" and apologizing for sending it to make me feel bad then i sent a bunch of messages about how it feels really shit to be treated like that, and how its unrealistic to expect responses that quickly

I really regret opening up and I'm scared of her being all over my social media accounts if we do break up or trying to threaten me or guilt me in to staying..
I want to try to talk my way out I tried to say its hard to handle stress like that when its so fragile, is it best to end the relationship in the most concise/neutral way possible ("could we try taking a break" or some variant) or just block on all platforms or what? she's trying to apologize but I feel like things have just gone too far

No.906

>>905
i know how stupid and pointless this entire post is, i should just block her and be done with it i'm just terrible at making my own decisions and always fold under pressure

No.928

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A small podcast I liked had some type of server/memory error so now they're missing half of their podcasts, they were my favorite too. It'd be a minor annoyance normally, but what makes me gloomy is that you can't find it anywhere else online. The producer probably doesn't even have the original files cause the podcast is half a decade old. To add on I only learned this when I googled them cause I was in a mood to re watch them.
It depresses me something can blip off the internet without anyone caring

No.933

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My mother has been paying my rent since I moved in my new place, but I have been expected to start paying it myself as soon as possible. With the last month of my lease drawing increasingly near, I started stressing and worrying constantly that I wouldn't be able to and would have to move back home (Extremely undesirable, since my mother has always been very toxic to live with. Plus, I would have to start taking over a one hour long commute to and from school again).

In December of last year, I actually thought that I had finally found a good job but then COVID happened. It is a remote ESL tutoring company based in China that is only mean to supplement material taught in brick-and-mortar classes, so since many schools there started closing due to the pandemic, online tutors were left with very few bookings. Because of this I have been making only a measly $~100 a month with it (My rent has been $710, and I only had $~2000 in savings so if I had to resort to using them I wouldn't have lasted very long, at all.)

At the very least, this tutoring job has had very friendly support staff, has always payed me on time, and has given me full ability to book my own schedule. At my last job, I was constantly being micromanaged, not being paid on time and for the exact hours worked, and had a boss who was always messing up every employee's schedule. I never wanted to work at a place like that ever again, but I'm scared that will happen all over again.

Well, since I have no other option right now, I will have to bite the bullet because I really want to keep living in this apartment. It is spacious, clean, quiet, has very friendly staff, and I was actually lucky enough to end up with a good roommate now.



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No. 615 [Reply]

Anon, did you make resolutions for the new year? Goals you want to follow? Bad habits to get rid of, good habits to get used to? This is the thread for discussion and sharing experience.

Note: Resolutions are not unique to new years. This thread is about the discussion of every goal we try to achieve in this year. If you started a day or a month into 2020, no worries. We would still like to hear what you have to say.

Mine are:
>Reduce fast food, once in 4 weeks (last time I went on the 28th so I can't go sooner than the 25th this month)
>Greatly limit internet time to 2h (using the internet for work does not count)
>Start the day by reading
>No sodas or alcohol
>Drink 4 of water every day

Remember not to beat yourself up by saying things like "Everyone breaks their resolution." or "Same shit every year.". Attitudes like this keep one stuck in the mud. Getting rid of such negativity can be the first goal.
If you rebound, you haven't failed. Losing track of your goal is the only way to fail so keep going and mind your actions.

This thread was made in 2020 but counts for all years after too.
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No.756

>>755
you could make a logo and layout and stuff, copy write it, and sell it to a website designer.
Make a name, a color scheme, a logo, ect..
its something to do and you could make bank
just remember if you do sell it so sell it for a set amount of money and a percentage of the earnings, ie. 5%

No.758

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>>755
Anon, this may come off as the last suggestion you may have thought of hearing but I know a site that caters to images of all kinda, low to high brow, entirely depending on the user's choice.
Tumblr.

It is possible to make a quiet blog, only follow other blogs that post images or reblog them and not have much in terms of "social"-media. The website is flawed and has a (partly justified) bad rep but unlike all the other webspaces I've seen it allows for a very peaceful and homely experience.
It has a tagging system that allows you to add certain tags to posts to make it easier to find on a blog.

I hope you may find a place of rest to enjoy peace of mind.
I love Simberg too.

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>>758
That's actually an interesting suggestion that I hadn't thought of. I had tried using tumblr in the past, but I found it difficult to navigate and search through things, and even nice blogs often tended toward endless series of reblogs so you couldn't find out where it came from if you wanted more.

That said I think it's probably a good idea to try it out again. Thanks anon.

Yeah, Simberg is great, bright and comfy while also being somewhat melancholic and nostalgic at the same time.

No.789

>>615
OP back for a monthly update.
The hardest by far is the internet consumption. I have decided upon a different strategy with which I hope to eventually reach a point of little to not waste of time.

Instead of counting the hours, I forbid myself from going to the internet before noon. The week after, before 1PM. Then 2PM. Then 3PM. And so on,

There will be days when I have to check something earlier obviously but I think with this approach I might do better than up until now.

No.790

>>789
I'm also trying to formulate a plan with internet consumption. I'm trying to limit myself from getting on websites that take up more time and working my way down my bookmarks and try to space everything out that way I'm doing more. It's very difficult as I am almost certain I have autism with how difficult choices are on me when there's infinite ones of them with what websites to use and what communities to be a part of. But I'm trying to work on my selective process and my decisive skills.



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No. 716 [Reply]

Let's talk about sleep and sleep health.

Napping for 30 minutes a day in addition to getting a full 8 hours of sleep every night (at the same time!) has been one of the best things I did to improve my life. I really recommend it for everyone. You will think much faster, you will remember things easier, ideas will just appear in your head easily, and you won't be so depressed. It feels like going from being a lifeless zombie on autopilot to Neo in the matrix.

Also, and more importantly, having to go sleep and nap every day at the same time provides a structure to my horribly unorganized life, I used to think it will make my life more confining than it is and waste my time, but it's the opposite, you actually gain more time the more often you nap and sleep throughout the day, and this simple schedule gives me something solid around which to organize other things in my day so I don't feel like I'm just drifting aimlessly. I want to give a shout out to the anon who posted Jordan Peterson, as it really confirms what he talks about in his lectures, at least in regards to having a schedule.
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No.776

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>>775
Umm, you can set the timer to start right when you fall asleep? Duh.

No.777

>>776
idk if youre being sarcastic

No.778

>>717
I'm not sure if that picture is a joke but sleep has multiple phases between REM and deep sleep and it's unlikely you can get the same benefits from a 30 minute nap every 8 hours.
Sounds like flat-earther tier nonsense.

No.779

>>777
woah…

No.782

>>777
Damn, dude…



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No. 726 [Reply]

for anyone who needs it
this is your sign to see a therapist
you can even get it free
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No.738

>>726
Going to a therapist destroyed my life. It would have been better if I had just started drinking.

No.739

>>738
How is that possible

No.740

>>732
Most of Freud's ideas are now discredited or outdated in the psychoanalytical community, but he did pave the way for other more competent psychologists like Jung. Any therapist that still practices Freudian psychology is so fucking clueless they should be fired, it would be like coming to a job that requires chemical engineering when you have a degree in alchemy.

Saying that psychotherapy is a scam would be painting with too broad a stroke, some therapists do genuinely want to help you, the fact that they may be getting paid for it doesn't change anything. You could argue that their methods are ineffective, but that also depends on the therapist and which methods they use.

Personally, I learned enough about this stuff that I could almost become a psychotherapist myself, I did it to help myself with my own problems, and I really love helping other people with this knowledge whenever I can, but once you get to this level you're faced with the annoying fucking problem of actually getting all these miserable people to want to help themselves. I have friends whose problems are super easy to solve, but they just won't even begin to solve them because of their own mental barriers, and this is where I imagine the real challenge for a psychotherapist begins. It's like being a doctor and you can easily cure some illness with a few tablets, but all your patients are superstitious and don't believe that medicine works.

So don't be like these guys, anon. Find a therapist that works for you, find good friends who can listen to you, make some kind of moral effort, or at least do self-therapy through the internet. It's absolutely worth it.

No.745

>>740
i love jung

No.747

My dad wasn't in my life growing up. I guess it's true boys without proper male role models can't grow into men. Hmmm.



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No. 628 [Reply]

Sitting in class watching some kids eat edibles while the professor is literally none the wiser. I can't help myself from wondering how miserable of a person you need to be in order to do drugs in the middle of class. I feel bad for them, honestly.

Drugs are fun while they last, but they're really not good for you. Share your wacky experiences with them.

Thhis is bad thred btw
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I really want to get shrooms or LSD for these reasons:
1. To cure depression (I really need a break from that shit, it's not helping me at all).
2. Microdosing for productivity and creativity like the Silicone Valley guys.
3. I look for hidden wisdom and "life secrets" everywhere. Usually the most valuable knowledge in life is either never taught and super obscure, or it's hidden in plain site. Knowledge is power to me, it's saved me so many times, so I look for it everywhere and I need something that can expand my mind and help me make connections, if not outright give me some cosmic revelation, though I don't expect the latter.
4. If nothing else, it will just be "fun" as people say, or at least I can say I tried it.

But anyway, I don't even know how to buy any of that stuff or where, I'm kinda paranoid so I'm afraid I will get into some police honeypot or buy bad quality shit that will kill me.

No.664

>>663
Mushrooms are a safe bet, honestly. They'll give you a lot more of the experience you're looking for too.

No.665

>>663
Mushrooms are easy to grow from spores. In most places the spores themselves are legal, even where they aren't the chances of getting caught are slim. I recently bought some from thesporedepot anonymously using bitcoin. Look up PFtek for more info on an easy way to culture them at home. LSD is a bit harder to get now that the market is flooded with more dangerous, but easier to manufacture analogs and similcra. Last I checked only a few people per continent still made and sold it. Unfortunately I can't say who is still in the game today, and lots of the darknet markets have gone dead recently. So I can't help on that front.

That said, don't get your hopes up too much. Psychedelics are kinda overhyped. In trials for depression nearly as many show deterioration in condition after use as show improvement. Personally after tripping on LSD I only became more sure that I should kill myself. Just putting it out there because you ought to know the risks going in.

No.666

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>>663
>>665
It's important to be in a safe environment when you do it, and the best trip is inward - darkness and silence. Do not fight the experience, surrender to it, observe it. It won't last forever. If you go into it safely and excited to see what it has to offer, like you seem to be, it should go smoothly.

No.667

>>663
That's not a good idea



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No. 583 [Reply]

Does anyone like tarot?
I don't use them to try to foresee my future, but I like to appeal to the symbolism as a way to gain a different perspective on the present. I find the symbolism to be very deep and almost archetypal. Like old folk tales, different artists have made their own interpretations and representations of the cards over many years. Their true value and power has persisted through these various variations.
Two people just quit at my job right before the start of holiday season, and one of my tires went flat. But, drawing this card reminds me to stand tall and stay resilient, despite any past blows.
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No.656

>>655
I don't mean to be rude but those things aren't effective future reading devices.
You know how some people have dreams about things that happen a few weeks later? That means that they're seeing the future. However, it's always very different, which means it's more like a rough prediction. It's like, "If everyone acts like we expect them to, it'll be like this," but since we have free will and often do unexpected things, it's slightly different in real life. Our free will keeps the future fluid. It's more like an estimate of our personalities, which are always changing. No method of future reading is effective since it just suggests what might happen.
Anyway, I believe it's a sin to even try predicting this stuff, so I stay away from it.

No.657

Plus, those dreams and these superstitions can be explained scientifically really easily. People just like these things because they like to be told what to do or told they're doing the right thing.

No.658

BTW this isnt op

No.659

>>656
I know.
>>657
And I know.

I just want to get into because it seems fun.

No.660

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I do Tarot. Been doing so I was 15 and got a Rider Waite deck from my mom for birthday.

I also own a Crowley Thoth.

I can try to help answer questions if needed.



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No. 129 [Reply]

How does it feel to have a personality disorder? It gives me something curiosity…

Tell me anon, what does it make you feel?

Tell me your histories.
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No.575

>>129
i have bpd, c-ptsd, an eating disorder, mdd, sad, derealization and a bunch of other shit. basically i want to die (more so in the winter), think everyone hates me, want people to hurt me, and i lie a lot

No.589

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>>572
>The section on psychotherapy even sounds like brainwashing, like these people just need to be returned to "normal" despite the lack of compelling justifications for doing so

>Should this really be considered a disorder? There are so many kinds of people in the world and it seems you could create whatever groups you wanted out of them.


there is a growing movement of people who are of the above opinions, related to trad psych. i am among them. many times, but not always, the treatment does more harm than good.

i personally am deeply opposed to almost all of the methods, approaches, and underlying beliefs about psychology and psychiatry.

No.590

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>>572

can you tell us more about what you've been experiencing that could be considered noteworkthy?

No.625

>>129
I live with Schizoid Personality Disorder (and Schizophrenia). It's frustrating to say the least. I just simply don't want to be around others that I don't really, really love, but people force themselves on me. One of the most angering things about it is being misunderstood by people. Everyone thinks that because I avoid them that I hate them (the least frustrating) or that I'm depressed (very frustrating) or something like that. I do have abandonment issues with people that I really love though. I can't stand not being around them or not spending time with them sometimes.
If you are (or anyone else is) still around and has any specific questions then feel free to ask away.

No.627

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It's just how it is. I can't know anything about how other people think or feel. I only know how my world is. I guess I might be schizoid. I've been a hikki for a decade and never felt lonely. I don't really enjoy much, and I don't really feel most emotions strongly. I guess just about the only thing I like is dreaming. I suppose my life is bad, but I don't really want to be something else, just not be at all.

I might be able to describe dissociation and derealization because there was a time before I had them, and a time after and I can compare the two. Derealization is odd. It's like looking at something, and seeing it not as a single real thing, but as a bunch of unrelated properties. There's a redness, and a roundness, and a shininess here, so I must be looking at an apple. But I no longer see the apple as a single thing that has all those properties. I mean that's not exactly true, but that's the best I can describe it. Disassociation is sort of like that but for my thoughts and feelings. It's like they exist somewhere else in a disjointed fashion and don't really concern "me". It's almost a bit like being half dead. Like I lost half of what I am somewhere and I can't find it again. I'm confused and can't remember what's happened to me, but I don't even really care since I don't really feel like this is important. Like, it's someone else's problem. Another way to put it is it's like going in and out of light fevered sleep, but in waking life.



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No. 263 [Reply]

Why do I have no discipline?
Why can't I do anything?
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No.374

I don't have discipline unless I have stress and pressure. So if I was to guess for you anon its probably the same. Just give yourself something to stress over and a deadline to hit it.

No.450

I was just about to post this exact same topic.

>354


This is really true. I think I was just born a POS garbage person and don't think I can change it. Like when I think about "people who exercise" or "organized people" and wish I was like them…it just seems impossible and well, I'm not *one of those people*. I'm a garbage person.

How do I stop believing this?

No.451

>>450
just know that you can change, but it will take a conscious, sometimes grueling, effort. force yourself to learn small habits. go for a walk every morning, or put things back where they belong. over time, these good habits will overtake your old, bad ones and be easier to stick to.

No.579

>>263
babies have been born and learned to walk and talk since I made this thread
and I'm still the same
Well I shouldn't say that, I guess I'm a bit better. Only a bit though…

No.580

>>450
Take the smallest easiest step you can imagine, and hold yourself to it, everyday. At one point for me it was just leaving the house.
It creates a feedback loop and things get better eventually.



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No. 569 [Reply]

Any of you guys are dealing with Hunchback posture and/or Forward head posture? It's so annoying, I'm also trying to deal with my weak chin.

Share your experiences, stories, tips, anything that help to get a better posture.

No.570

Can't say I do much to maintain a better posture, but every once in a while, something shows up on the internet that makes me sit up straight.

No.573

>>570
Same here. As I was looking at the picture, tried to fix my posture, and then read your post. lol
I do need to work on my posture, but my desk is a little awkward and small so I have to sit in an odd fashion at it.
My ribs actually are starting to hurt more than my back or anything else, also my chair isn't that great either. I need a replacement whenever I can scrounge up the money to get a new one.

No.576

When I'm out and about I just lean against a wall once in a while to remember how to stand straight.

No.578

I'm going to buy one of these posture corrector to see if it works, any advice?



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No. 300 [Reply]

I have moderate acne on my face and moderate/severe acne on my chest and back. Ive had it since a teenager and never really cared but recenetly decided that I ought to do something about it.

Has anyone had any experience with this?
Any over the counter products you would recommend?
Any lifestyle changes?
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No.302

Generally eating better also really helps. Of course, bathing daily and generally being more hygenic are serious helps. There also are prescription solutions available that may be logical if your acne is hormonal or something not directly caused by you, but I imagine that would be a discussion to have with a doctor.

No.303

I highly recommend taking a look at /r/skincareaddiction's wiki, they have a pretty good suggested beginner routine to follow. For years I had a bit of acne that I could never seem to escape no matter how careful I was about not touching my face, but I followed a few of their tips/suggestions and it cleared right up! I can't speak to how effective their advice is when it comes to moderate/severe acne since mine was really minor, but it seems like a lot of people have found success with the advice there.

https://www.reddit.com/r/SkincareAddiction/wiki/index

Aside from that, general upkeep stuff like drinking plenty of water, not touching your face, maintaining a healthy diet, is really important. I also agree with >>302 , talking to a dermatologist would be in your best interest since you said your acne is a bit on the severe side.

No.304

>>303
big up, man
that place really helped me out when i was a teen

No.307

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>>303
>sebaceous filaments
>Great! Now I know what those are and how to get rid of the-
>unfixable

I'm even more disappointed.

No.577

>>300
I know this may be a bit late since this post is over a year old, but I personally have a nice older croatian lady in my town that does skincare for her customers. It costs 50-60€ an hour, depending on how much she likes you and how nice and polite you are to her. It really helped me going there about once a month. Also, as an additional tip, for anything service related, if you're european, go to eastern european people, the vast majority of them are honest and hard working people that do their job well because they believe it's the right thing to do, not because they get money out of it unless you hit one of the rare mines where you get your shit fucked up because they don't know what they're doing and are hoping you don't notice.



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