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No. 1 [Reply]

Mental and Physical Health.


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No. 263 [Reply]

Why do I have no discipline?
Why can't I do anything?
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No.964

Oh man. I have the same problem…
I have to learn math for exam. Nope, I get distracted with shitposing and youtube.
I want to start a major rewrite of my imageboard… But I get distracted.
I always postpone everything until it is too late.
I don't get distracted when autism kicks in or/and somebody challenges me to do something. Or get drunk (but not sure about that)

What should I do?

No.965

Alright, story idea: A guy is so depressed that the only respite and something resembling happiness he gets is spinning a keychain souvenir back and forth. His happiness is dependent on the keychain, and he lives in constant fear of the keychain one day failing to provide respite. This was inspired by a keychain.

No.966

>>964
Hey idiot, I bet you can't get over 65% in your exam. Prove me wrong sucker

No.969

>>966
based reverse psychology

No.970

>>966
Hehe… It wouldn't be so sad if this wasn't true.
>>969
It didn't work :/.
I'm literally turning into a vegetable because of this corona thing going on.



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How many of you guys are hikkis? It is not something I am proud of personally, yet, it's only been about a month into my second relapse. Have any of you been through this, and have you any advice?
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No.952

>>950
In what way did he come across as a """nice guy""" to you?

No.953

>>952
I feel like listening to my father when I listen him.

No.963

>>925
>I'm sorry to hear that man, your story sounds a lot like mine. How are you holding up?
Same as years ago. I'm waiting till my anchors are gone so I can go too.
>Do you have any support, family or otherwise?
Not really and things are getting exponentially worse post-corona. Health and economic issues.
>Have you tried medical help? Is that accessible where you live? Antidepressants are far from great, but in a desperate situation, they can help restart things.
I am not going to see a doctor ever again. I am tired of being told I am the problem and that somehow I have deluded myself that life is unbearably painful when it's not. This life is clearly something I don't want. There is nothing I can do in this life that would give me purpose or happiness. All my dreams have been shattered one by one. I thought the internet would have given me an opportunity but it's straight up impossible to do what I would have liked to do. I do not want to become yet another zombie working some shitty retail job while chugging antidepressants. I would rather die while I am free.
I had asked for so little, I even prayed, I earnestly kneeled and prayed to a God I didn't believe in, to have something back for all the shit I've been through. Nothing, it was too much to ask.
This might be my last post, I'm done with imageboards.

No.967

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>>551 here.
One year later. I'm my third semester now, I decided to go for a degree in Chemistry, first semester was ok, I had some of the best grade among my peers, and meet some friends, and actually got attention from a lot of girls which was a surprise to be honest, (I end up loosing my V-card, but I'm not very proud of the whole thing) second semester was meh I'm back to being friendless and with the Corona outbreak I'm back to my home not quite as a Hikki but at least I'm comfy, now I'm starting the third hopefully every will be fine this semester, a part of me wants to stay at home for the rest of the uni, to be honest there's nothing that attach me to the Uni and specially the city I have to move in order to go to college, even if Virtual classes are a pain I still prefer to be in the commodity of my home.

I wish I had something more important to tell you guys, but haven't done anything more interesting beside studying, I got some ""friends"", and I got a short ""relation"" but now everything is back to normal, and that's much better, I have to confess that I still feel 0 passion or anything like that for my career path, but I noticed I'm better student that the average person, so I think I can manage my way through the rest of the semester.

In the mean time I have to tell you guys that I finally accomplished one of my long dreams that was to build a decent computer (I know, not much of a dream but I really wanted it), I saved for years and this year finally managed to built it.

I've been feeling a lack of motivation the last semester and I don't think it will go away anytime soon, but I'll be fine.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SNq4zqTN_DQ

No.968

>>884
Anon, your support almost make me tear up, but I don't think I deserve so much support from you, in the end I'm still a capable human been, my life hasn't been particularly hard, but I got into the Hikkikomori life-style for the same reasons most of the people get into that life-style, and my 'recovery' has been going if not well, at least decent.

In the end I'm just probably just another socially inept lazy scum (that's how I've been called), but hey, thanks for your support Anon, it really meant a lot to me, even if we are just strangers.

I hope your life is doing ok too, I'll cheer up for you too.
See you next year.



Thanks for listening, this be my last update for this year.
/blog



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No. 592 [Reply]

I read once that if you go deep enough through your anus, you can reach the spleen.
Suposedly massaging the spleen internally grants an incredibly intense sensation, like a constant orgasm that doesn't run out.
Couldn't find any info on Google, i doubt there's any truth to it, but i'm still curious nonetheless, have you guys ever heard anything about it?
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No.692

This is fucked up anon get some help

No.814

Dunno… I read a horror story were they put hooks up a dudes anus and ripped out his stomach.

No.816

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No.831

>>814
Read Chuck Paliahnucks short story, the one about the pool.

No.962

>>592
lmao where tf did you learn that?



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No. 960 [Reply]

Post what you did today to work towards your goals. Or if you did nothing, reflect on why and how you'll do better (don't be too hard on yourself though, perhaps you can even still do something today, even if small?). Hopefully you will feel more motivated and accountable.

>why not just use deeds?

I don't want to spam deeds for boring or very minor things, I'm ok with posting it in a thread though.

No.961

Today I worked on outlining a story I've been planning on writing for a while. I've never finished a large writing project, so I'm keeping this one constrained to medium-length and seeing it through to the end. I also made sure to go for a walk and get some fresh air and time out of the house.



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No. 429 [Reply]

Anyone else doing this?

I know a lot of people are skeptical of any health benefits that could be gained from not wagglin your willly and idk if there are true health benefits myself, but I know for sure I am addicted to pornography and I want to stop. I have many personal reasons as to why I want to stop masturbating and watching porn.

So thoughts on nofap?
Tips and tricks to help fight the urge when it comes?

No.430

I don't know about health benefits and I can see it being a harm if you are used to jerking yourself more than once a day and then going to 0 for a long time.

It's certainly an act of self discipline though. If you manage to hold this for a whole month I'm sure you'll find the will and energy to do other things like study or medidate.

Best of luck anon.

No.432

>>430
I'm also of the opinion that it's more of an exercise in self-control than anything. I personally fap a few times a day even though I, "don't want to." but it definitely saps my motivation after I'm done.

My only cure is to keep busy, but even working 12 hours a day isn't busy enough, so honestly it's really hard for me to go more than a couple days without coming across some anime grill thumbnail that boils my oil.

No.957

>>432
What helped me was ceasing to use porn while masturbating. Not even using my imagination to picture sexually arousing images.

Now simply seeing porn doesn't instantly turn me on and I masturbate just when I actually want to do it. I crave the process and the feeling, rather than the pornography.

That's not so say that my fap frequency fell extremely low immediately, there are periods of time when it fluctuates, but my masturbation patterns and sexual arousal feel healthier than they were prior to absenting my self from porn

No.958

>health benefits
There are huge health benefits, especially if you replace the habit with something productive/healthy. Men who are addicted to masturbating will end up getting no pleasure from it eventually because they've constantly got this death grip on their dick (desensitization) meaning they will eventually never be able to cum from sex or getting sucked off. The high you get from cumming lasts a few seconds but destroying your dick will last forever. That will fuck up any of your future relationships because you'll be shit in bed. You'll probably struggle to even get it up. It will make your partner believe that you don't love them if you can't get hard or get no sexual pleasure from being with them. Your dick will thank you for not strangling it on a regular basis.

>psychological benefits

Porn fucks up your perception of reality. It affects your self-confidence. It affects how you see women. People with an addiction keep going for more and more extreme porn, you could never sustain a healthy relationship with another person in the future if the only thing that will get you off is piss and shit and strangulation. Think about how that could get you into trouble one day if what you're watching is illegal or looked down on by society. It affects how you see people in the office, your family, your friends and strangers on the street, you're seeing them as objects instead of living, breathing humans. It will affect your worldview, your politics and your morals. No partner will ever be good enough for you because they don't look/act like what you see in porn (especially if you're into hentai or something totally unrealistic like furries). When you stop watching porn, your confidence returns and you have much, much better relationships with everyone around you.

No.959

>>958
>replacing the habit
You're addicted to jerking off because it gives your brain chemical rush. It's temporary and then you go back to being bored/depressed. When you get the urge, if you can replace it with something that excites you (music, roller coasters, horror films, running), relaxes you (meditation, yoga, drinking tea), makes you happy (watching a film, listening to a podcast, reading) makes you feel accomplished (cooking, painting, journaling, DIY), helps you bond with someone (your partner/family/friends/pet) etc. then you will break your addiction and have a hobby that you can actually share with others. Better yet, use a combination of all of those things. Imagine the things you could create or consume with the hours you spend organizing your creepy porn folders. Think about why you consume porn and then try to find something that will give you the same high or joy or state of relaxation.

>if all else fails…

Educate yourself on the industry. This won't work for the most addicted people because they've already conditioned their brains into seeing porn stars and victims of revenge porn as objects but after a few weeks of going cold turkey, this will have more of an impact. Read accounts from porn starts who have left, interviews with directors and see how little they care about their actors/you. Human trafficking. Revenge porn. See the impact porn has on the lives of everyone involved in filming but also of those who become addicted (NEETs, divorcees, dead bedrooms, incels). Read accounts of people who have had their relationships/careers/lives destroyed by porn, people who have been sexually assaulted, court cases where people took their fetishes too far and actually hurt/killed someone. If you feel empathy, you can't enjoy porn.



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I searched all boards, and was surprised to not find a thread for tulpas considering the imageboard we're on. I'm sure a few of you should have one though, so let's share and discuss everything associated with tulpas and tulpa creation.

If anyone isn't familiar with this, a "tulpa" is an entity created by meditation and imagination, which splits off your own consciousness in your mind and learns to act, feel, and think independently as its own personality. It becomes very much like a real person that talks to you and you experience life with it, but it's different from an imaginary friend in that it's sentient. With enough concentration and practice you can eventually superimpose your tulpa onto your own subjective reality and feel it with all five senses like a real person. A "wonderland" is an imaginary world that you construct in your mind to hang out in with your tulpa, scenarios can begin unfolding there on their own if you learn how to get into a hypnotic state via meditation and it's not unlike dreaming. As for dreams, you can meet your tulpa there and experience the dream together like a multiplayer game. This is just a simple explanation, and there's also lots of other stuff that you can do with your tulpa, but most other people make them at least for some kind of companionship.

For those of you who have tulpas, tell us about:
>who they are, what they're like, what they look like
>your wonderlands, what goes on there
>their creation/development process, how long it's been
>what your life is like with them, how it changed for you because of them
>whatever interesting experiences or problems you had and anything else you wanna share
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No.937

>tulpas will fuck you up in any meaningful way
If a tulpa does not recognize that its continued life relies on your health, wellbeing, and care for it, than you're probably dealing with a DID alter, or a demon lmao. not a tulpa
>do not make a tulpa if you are unprepared
Tulpas are actually very theraputic and helpful, if you're a loner, or need someone to look out for you verbally. Fleshed out tulpas can offer unique perspectives on things.
>i made friends so i didnt need my tulpa
this is retarded and cruel. get fucked.
>life moves past her attention
this is a truly difficult hurdle. when i had a wagie job, my tulpa was very young. i did my best to interact with her, and if anything, it increased a romantic bond, and a respitual feeling i would get from her between moments stolen where i could just embrace her, or laugh at her visual gags she would play on me.

her name is mont.

No.939

>>937
Glad you had a positive experience! I just couldn't handle a tulpa without my mind shattering, plus I only seem to attract negative entities so if I tried to create a tulpa no doubt they would turn on me and bad things would begin to happen. Plus I've talked about it with my therapist, and she agrees that it would be incredibly unhealthy for me.

No.940

>>674
Can you explain exactly what you mean by this? The idea in quantum physics that observation changes the outcome of an interaction is purely limited to the physical observation of small particles like the spin of an electron or the polarization of a photon. Plus you're not modifying the state by thinking about these things, the act of measurement collapses the possibility state into a single state which doesn't really have anything to do about your own subjective reality, it's an objective measurement.

No.946

>>939
if you dont trust your brain, than your best bet would be to practice meditation and in general wellness. cement yourself; clean out your body, meditate, pray (even if you're faithless). never let yourself remain vulnerable or weak. as fun of a life it may be, there is a reason the veil of content is pierced so easily, or all that is taken away.

No.956

>>946

Feels much easier said than done. I've been practicing my meditation however, especially at night, because I find a lot of peacefulness in it, especially in an inner sanctum.



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Anon, did you make resolutions for the new year? Goals you want to follow? Bad habits to get rid of, good habits to get used to? This is the thread for discussion and sharing experience.

Note: Resolutions are not unique to new years. This thread is about the discussion of every goal we try to achieve in this year. If you started a day or a month into 2020, no worries. We would still like to hear what you have to say.

Mine are:
>Reduce fast food, once in 4 weeks (last time I went on the 28th so I can't go sooner than the 25th this month)
>Greatly limit internet time to 2h (using the internet for work does not count)
>Start the day by reading
>No sodas or alcohol
>Drink 4 of water every day

Remember not to beat yourself up by saying things like "Everyone breaks their resolution." or "Same shit every year.". Attitudes like this keep one stuck in the mud. Getting rid of such negativity can be the first goal.
If you rebound, you haven't failed. Losing track of your goal is the only way to fail so keep going and mind your actions.

This thread was made in 2020 but counts for all years after too.
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No.758

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>>755
Anon, this may come off as the last suggestion you may have thought of hearing but I know a site that caters to images of all kinda, low to high brow, entirely depending on the user's choice.
Tumblr.

It is possible to make a quiet blog, only follow other blogs that post images or reblog them and not have much in terms of "social"-media. The website is flawed and has a (partly justified) bad rep but unlike all the other webspaces I've seen it allows for a very peaceful and homely experience.
It has a tagging system that allows you to add certain tags to posts to make it easier to find on a blog.

I hope you may find a place of rest to enjoy peace of mind.
I love Simberg too.

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>>758
That's actually an interesting suggestion that I hadn't thought of. I had tried using tumblr in the past, but I found it difficult to navigate and search through things, and even nice blogs often tended toward endless series of reblogs so you couldn't find out where it came from if you wanted more.

That said I think it's probably a good idea to try it out again. Thanks anon.

Yeah, Simberg is great, bright and comfy while also being somewhat melancholic and nostalgic at the same time.

No.789

>>615
OP back for a monthly update.
The hardest by far is the internet consumption. I have decided upon a different strategy with which I hope to eventually reach a point of little to not waste of time.

Instead of counting the hours, I forbid myself from going to the internet before noon. The week after, before 1PM. Then 2PM. Then 3PM. And so on,

There will be days when I have to check something earlier obviously but I think with this approach I might do better than up until now.

No.790

>>789
I'm also trying to formulate a plan with internet consumption. I'm trying to limit myself from getting on websites that take up more time and working my way down my bookmarks and try to space everything out that way I'm doing more. It's very difficult as I am almost certain I have autism with how difficult choices are on me when there's infinite ones of them with what websites to use and what communities to be a part of. But I'm trying to work on my selective process and my decisive skills.

No.949

>>748
>>789
I am also sick of the internet and I want to go, but I don't consume anything already. I stick around because I want to share my artwork but I have negative infinite self-esteem and social phobias so I can't function outside of anonymous websites. If I make two posts in a row under the same nickname I feel like I'm suffocating. I wanted to make an account on ArtStation and just seeing mandatory name/surname fields made me feel nauseous.
It's completely irrational since I do or say nothing that would warrant this kind of fear, I am just terrified of putting myself out there in the world and I'm slowly growing old while opportunities, people and everything else pass by.
Fear really is the mind killer. I don't know how to recover. Even professional help couldn't fix this psychosis.
I have no idea why I'm posting this here right now, I normally lurk. I'm going through such a troubled phase.



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No. 908 [Reply]

I didn’t know what board to put this under. I figured “mind” worked well. Art thread, post things you’re proud of. I made this with my girlfriend, enjoy
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No.921

>>913
Relax.

No.942

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>>908
really cool art, OP

No.943

>>942
very good photo
reminds me of my high school days

No.947

>>908
>random swastika
basido

No.948

>>908
really nice stuff



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No. 879 [Reply]

Lately, I've been struggling with keeping a positive attitude and continuing on being productive in these trying times. In the spirit of this, I decided to make a thread about the battle for constant self-improvement! I saw an anon on /fit/ recommend this guide, and read through it. It was very brusque but I did find a lot of parallels between my life and that of failure avoidance tactics that we either conciously or unconciously employ.

https://raouldify.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/2011_1203-the-flinch.pdf

Do any of you anons have any similar resources/experiences/advice?
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No.889

>>888
stop

No.890

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>>887
Please don't neglect the importance of earmuffs or earplugs, especially if you're going to be doing lawn work often and for hours at a time.

No.929

I was having zoom therapy course as part of a legal case. I found that my low moods come from me not working and being productive enough but that came from me not working as much cause of my accident. I started getting more productive and making more money again and have felt a lot better for it. So my therpay stopped. Ive been tired last few days but I will make myself get out there again.
Ive also told myself I cant drink until I reach certain goals, perhaps by then I wont want to. SO be productive and have goals is my advice.

No.938

I fail to see the benefit of a "positive attitude". Falling for the Cult of Positivity has no relevance to the real world.



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